Being called "Aunty", "Aunt", Uncle,

[OliviaCromwell]

At what age do you stop using these titles for the generation above you? Is this a dying custom?

I stopped saying "Aunty" and "Uncle" to my older relatives when I was in my 50s and they were in their 70s, although it still sometimes slips out.

I must have stopped using it as a curtesy title to non related family friends a lot earlier, I don't remember.

My children, in their 20s, don't really use it to my siblings even now, but use it when referring to absent people, for clarity, I suppose. Also when signing gifts, etc.

My teenage nieces and nephews seem to have stopped using it to me, already, although my God children ( non related) have not.

I have Nigerian friends who have raised their children to all most other adults "Aunty" or "Uncle" - without adding their name - so these children call me "Aunty", and my own nieces and nephews do not.

I don't mind at all, either way is fine - I am just wondering if my experience is normal, or if in other families these terms are still used life long.

My Grandmother had an aunt who was younger than her, and she was expected to call her "Aunty" her whole life! My friends son has 2 uncles born within 2 years of him, one older, one younger, and he does not call them Uncle - but refers to them as "my uncles"

I'm in my 50s & still call my Aunts 'Aunt'

I have nieces late teens/early 20s who wouldn't dream of not calling me Auntie Redglitter

My friends 3 kids are now late 20s & I'm still Aunt Redglitter to them too

That is interesting, I stopped after they themselves started teasing me a little bit about it, and I realised I was the only one in the family still doing it.

Yours obviously are happy for you to continue.

We all still refer to our relatives from previous generations as Aunty or Uncle - they were for their whole lives, and it won't change now they are gone.

I do realise I still refer to my relatives as "Aunty" or "Uncle" in their absence, when talking to other people

I have never called anybody aunty or uncle who wasn't an actual blood related aunty or uncle. The name did not extend to their husbands and wives who would just have been called by their first names.

That is interesting too, do you mind if I ask your approximate age, just to the nearest decade!

As a child I was forced to use aunty/uncle to unrelated adults - I hated it as well as the general 'all adults are to be obeyed unquestioned at all times' type of crap.

I now hate being called aunty by even my nieces/nephews - I'm much happier being called by my name, although it is up to them what they choose to call me.

My DH (33) calls his aunties and uncles Auntie Jan/Uncle Mike etc whereas I have one uncle who I call by his first name, it was strange to my DH that I did that. Whereas a different uncle I would call Uncle James to his face/in birthday cards but chatting to my parents about him i'd likely refer to him as just James (which my DH would never do, would always use Uncle)

I've accidentally referred to my sister as Claire rather than Auntie Claire a few times to my young kids oops

I have never referred to my mums friends as Auntie. Unlike my husband who has an Auntie Pam who is not related to him

My birthday & Christmas cards etc all come signed from Aunt X so they still use it too. One jokingly always refers to herself as my favorite Auntie. She's in her 80s now so it won't be changing

Her adult children & grandchildren all call my Mum Aunt too

Seems that once you get a title in our family, its for life 😁

I now hate being called aunty by even my nieces/nephews - I'm much happier being called by my name, although it is up to them what they choose to call me

I'm the opposite I love being Auntie to my nieces. I'd hate if they stopped calling me it

I only called blood relatives aunts and uncle. I'm mid 30s English with Irish grandparents and lots of aunts and uncles. I haven't spoken to them for a long time and would probably refer to them by name now but. Doubt I'll see them again as very toxic and we don't live in the area.

My teen DD only has one uncle and refers to him by name although refers to grandparents as grandad/nanny.

Is it more of a religious thing though in that way some religions refer to us as brothers and sister so the children would refer to older generations as Aunts and Uncles? Or perhaps it's just cultural.

I became an aunt when I was quite young (early teens) so never expected or wanted my nieces and nephews to call me aunty. But it's funny that they're all grown up independent adults now and have all started calling me aunty. I think it's an affectionate thing - I'm the only aunt on this side of the family. I find it very cute and funny.

I don't think I ever stopped saying aunty and uncle to my relatives. Maybe I relaxed it a bit when I was in my twenties. I'm mid 50s now. Only ever for blood relatives, not adult friends of the family.

I stopped once my aunties and uncles didn't put those titles on Christmas and birthday cards so probably when I was in my 30s.
If my daughter (33) calls my sister by just her names she very pointedly says "Auntie .....".

If my daughter (33) calls my sister by just her names she very pointedly says "Auntie .....".

😂😂😂 I'd do that too if my nieces ever do that

I've never called anyone aunt or uncle, I just use their names. I think using either for unrelated people is a bit shonky and unnecessary.

I'm 56 and use Auntie and Uncle. My dc are in their 20s and do the same to their dad's siblings. I think it's partly cultural as I'm of Jamaican heritage and it's just what we do! My DH is white, none of his siblings kids call him or his siblings aunt/uncle.

My nephews and nieces have never called me auntie as far as I can recall, just my first name but my husband's nephews still do which I find weird as a)I'm not related to them and b)they're adults in their late 20s/early 30s.
I refer to my brother as Uncle X, or my brother X in conversation to my children because we have 2 close friends who are also called X so it can get a bit confusing otherwise, but they'd just call him X to his face. My sister has always just been referred to and called by her first name.
I only really knew one of my own aunties and I did call her auntie when I was a young child but certainly by the time I was in my teens she was referring to herself and I was calling her by her first name. I've never called anyone that I'm not related to Auntie or Uncle.

I still use aunty/uncle for mine, including great aunts and uncles. I'm mid 30s. My parents still referred to their aunts and uncles as such until they passed away. My own DC don't use aunty for only one of their aunts but only because they are nearly the same age. They do get aunty cards though.

Wouldn’t dream of just calling my aunts and uncles by their name, it would just feel very odd! My children also use auntie/uncle but only for their blood relative - the wife of their uncle just gets her name but I think that’s because she wasn’t around when they were born and came along later.

I was always firm that my kids didn't have to call non relatives uncle or auntie. It stems from not wanting them to feel some sort of authority that isn't there which in turn could leave them vulnerable. I know relatives aren't foolproof but I hated the idea of a child being falsely made to feel 'closer' to someone just because they are referred to by a 'close' name, or that they had to do what they say. I feel this could put them in situations that aren't in their best interests. In terms of real family members I would still call them auntie/uncle the same as I'd say mum/dad/granny.

Mine have never called me Aunty to my face, it feels awkward to me, but perhaps that’s because they aren’t blood related, they are DH’s siblings kids.

I stopped using "aunt" for mine - both blood relations and as a courtesy title for non-relatives - when I was in my 30s, I think. First names only from now on. I don't have siblings so I have no niblings of my own, but I don't expect friends' children to call me anything other than my first name.

I stopped using aunty and uncle when I was in my teens. My children and my nieces and nephews have never used them, my siblings and I all in our 20s and 30s were just known as our first names from the beginning