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Got the miserly ick!

26 replies

crochetmonkey74 · 01/03/2024 07:18

This is totally trivial and not at all important but I like chatting on here as can't share in real life.
Been having a mild flirtation with a guy , all going well. He popped over to my house as he was quotung me for a job. He has this thing where he is a tea snob and a joke he has with friends. I'd said to him I had received a box of fortnums tea bags as a present, and I'd let him have a posh one (all very lighthearted and joking)
Anyway the time came, and I made a cuppa , got the fortnums box and he picked one and so far so jokey all nice.
Anyway, next thing I know, as I turned to the kettle, I saw him pick a handful of them out of the box and pocket them . He thought I didn't see , and I was too awkward to say anything but instant ick from me. And I was pissed off as the present was from a friend who is not rolling in money so the gift was a bit special .
Anyway I'm pissed off about it!!

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SharedAccountWithMySister · 01/03/2024 07:19

That’s not miserly, that’s theft.

Hoglet70 · 01/03/2024 07:20

Cheeky bugger!!!! That is so bad. He needed calling up on that at the time, bit late now. Don't go out with hime though, he'll be pinching your teaspoons!

PollyOrange · 01/03/2024 07:20

Nonononono. Run

NashvilleQueen · 01/03/2024 07:20

Don't give him the work. Cheeky bastard.

TooManyCheesecakeCalories · 01/03/2024 07:20

I wouldn’t give him the job or the time of day again. Total CF.

Begsthequestion · 01/03/2024 07:21

Umm wow he just stole from you, literally as soon as your back was turned, so yes don't date this man!

Such a shit thing to do to someone he's supposed to want to impress.

Was he raised in a barn or what?!

ETA and don't let him do work in your house either! You don't know what else he'll take.

LindorDoubleChoc · 01/03/2024 07:21

That's not the miserly ick. That's the he's a petty thieving dickhead ick.

HandsomeGreige · 01/03/2024 07:22

If you are just getting an ‘ick’ from some utter loser stealing your tea, I would seriously question what red flags you are ignoring

VictoriaPink · 01/03/2024 07:23

Please don't date or employ this man.

Can you imagine what will happen if you leave him in your house unattended?

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crochetmonkey74 · 01/03/2024 07:25

Definitely won't be dating or employing him!!

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 01/03/2024 07:26

So you know he would steal your stuff as soon as your back was turned....

Netaporter · 01/03/2024 07:27

Obvs you can’t employ or date this man. Personally, I’d have tried to find a way of nicking them back from his pocket to fuck with his head. I hate thieves.

DisforDarkChocolate · 01/03/2024 07:28

Oh that worse than the ick!

I'd be worried what else had taken. Definitely someone to block.

Fannyfiggs · 01/03/2024 07:30

WTF?? Dirty tea-leaf!!

THEMOSTREAL · 01/03/2024 07:32

Don’t give him the job, and tell him the tea bags he pocketed can count as his call out fee for coming to give you a quote

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crochetmonkey74 · 01/03/2024 07:34

I find greed and stealing the worst. The thing that really grinds me is the overlooking the specialness of something just cos you feel entitled to it. I remember a massive row with an ex when he let his friend eat 3 of 4 Krispy Kreme doughnuts I'd bought for our family ( a rare treat those days)

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vincettenoir · 01/03/2024 07:49

Wow, he really is addicted to posh tea! What a wrongun.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 01/03/2024 09:21

crochetmonkey74 · 01/03/2024 07:25

Definitely won't be dating or employing him!!

good! You don’t want somebody like that in your house, place of work/ business or anywhere else in your life!!

FictionalCharacter · 01/03/2024 09:37

Why on earth didn't you say anything? That's theft, not just being miserly, and you should have been really angry with him.

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crochetmonkey74 · 01/03/2024 11:43

THEMOSTREAL · 01/03/2024 07:32

Don’t give him the job, and tell him the tea bags he pocketed can count as his call out fee for coming to give you a quote

I think I'm going to do this. If and when he says "Did you want me to come and do the summerhouse" I think I'll say that.

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YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 01/03/2024 11:47

What an absolute weirdo!!

XiCi · 01/03/2024 11:49

God that's awful, what a horrible man. I'm glad you caught him out before you started getting involved with him or you employed him. It's likely he would have helped himself to more of your belongings

yousexybugger · 01/03/2024 11:56

FFS he's not a miser, he's a tea leaf. He'll be after the quilted bog roll if you let him back in.

I'd actually wait for him to next message and reply 'Steve, you may not realise but I saw you pocketing a handful of my teabags that were a present. If course I'm not going to give you the job. Enjoy the tea'.

Block because he will deny and accuse you of hallucinating.

Pemba · 01/03/2024 12:57

It's not so much the value of the teabags, it's the behind-your-back sneakiness of it. So unpleasant. You could never trust him about anything. Shudder!

Agree with pps don't use or date him. What a weirdo!

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 01/03/2024 13:08

Anyway, next thing I know, as I turned to the kettle, I saw him pick a handful of them out of the box and pocket them . He thought I didn't see

Quite apart from him thieving your teabags, he think you're stupid and won't notice that a handful has disappeared from a small box of at most 50 teabags? (unless it was the tea selection one which has 120, of course).

I'd be declining his quote and telling him why with no faffing around.