And is that the same as the right thing to do? WWYD?
I know her through a hobby and whilst we're not besties, I think we've become quite good hobby mates iyswim. We see each ither as part of the group most week, occasionally a night or day out just the two of us and when we go away with the group, a couple of times a year, usually share a room.
She's always been terrible at replying to messages, to me and others and it's best to make arrangements with her when you see her. She says this is becuase she gets so many out of hours work related messages she just ignores everything. I'm not sure that's entirely true because she does deal with work issues when we're out.
Anyway, the last few months I've had a feeling she's not OK. 3 weeks ago I hot an opportunity to ask her properly if she was OK and she said "not really" , but I couldn't probe further because we were with others. I messaged later that day to say, what's up, what can I do? She replied nearly a week later to say she'll pull herself together and that checking in is enough.
So I took her at her word and sent a message checking in at the start of this week. No reply.
She's a middle aged single woman, lives alone, no children, with a stressful job and not particularly happy in her personal life. I don't want to be another thing she needs to deal with or avoid, but I'm also quite worried.
So, she's probably wishing I'd go away? Is that the right thing to do?