Everything is going wrong.

[Nom0relemons]

I've had so much crap thrown at me in the past few months, it feels never ending and like I can't get a breather.

Family relationships around me are breaking down/breaking up, family members have died, plans have had to be rescheduled again and again, friends are acting shit, TTC isn't working, I'm getting more and more stressed and everything feels so difficult to handle.

To top it all off, I put a (small) dent in someone's car (not my fault, the wind's) and everyone told me to just drive off (even the owner of the car said he wouldn't have left his number if he had done it and that I was silly!), I didn't and left my number, called my insurance company who told me to just deal with it one on one with the other driver as it should only cost a small amount but it turns out it's some special type of sodding paint/car/god knows what and it's gonna cost 3 times the amount I was told.

I am so done, feel so defeated and just needed a moan.

Big virtual hugs for you. That does sound like a lot. And when we are stressed our brains lock on to identifying other stress, and it becomes a horrible cycle.

I found categorising thing helpful. So working out what was stressful but short term, what was stressful but in my power to do something about, and finally what I couldn't change at all. That helped be focus my energy and actions.

Tell him to get a quote from chips away - they are so much cheaper than bodyshops and are just so so good. I rarely recommend anything but we’ve used them 4 times over the years and one in particular was a big job but always under £200.

@Hillrunning That sounds like it'll actually be really useful, thanks so much for that, I'm going to do that tonight and see if I can refocus a bit and stop feeling so sorry for myself. Thank you x

@TeenLifeMum Thank you! Unfortunately I'm not in the UK so don't have that company, I'll see if there's something similar over here though.