Will my DC always love each other this much?

[SiblingLove4]

Pretty sure the answer will be no but I am curious!

DCs are 6 and 2.5 and absolutely adore each other. They play together, cuddle lots and their faces light up when they see each other again at the end of the day.

When the little one is upset she'll often ask for her brother and I can see he's so touched to be that person of her. He can be quite defiant with us but will always have time for her and often says things like "she's the best baby I could have dreamed of!".

They still argue over toys of course and have the occasional shouting match but in general I couldn't have hoped for them to have a better relationship.

In your experience, does this last? Is it a good indicator of their future relationship or could it still go wrong overnight?

Awww it's lovely to hear about the lovely relationships your DC have. And also that it might ebb and flow but I guess that's all part of life! Let's hope they choose good partners though as I can definitely see how that would change the family dynamics.

I didn't particularly like my siblings growing up but we're now all so close and get on with no drama so I guess there would be hope either way!

I was terrified we were ruining DS' life by having another baby at the time, which is quite funny to think about now. I'm glad I was wrong, they bring such a lovely side out of each other.

Ditto.

As adults you mean? After leaving home…No normally you grow apart
a little or a whole lot.

My DC were like this as young children and are still the same now they are teenagers

There are ten years between mine but my eldest has always been lovely with my youngest. He's very kind to her and protective of her- they're 18 and 8 and he still plays with her and looks after her sometimes. Obviously they have totally different lives and interests but he's always been so good with her and she adores him.

This was my brother and me as kids. We were less close in late teens/twenties but our bond is still very special. Now much older with aging parents we are back to a very close relationship. You never erase the early shared memories.

My DB and I are 4 years apart. Teenage years were rough, but we are incredibly close now and have been through much of our adult life.

My two sons have always adored each other.

They are 6.5 and almost 10 and they are best buddies. They openly say they are best friends, they never stop playing and laughing together and they hate being apart. When we go to the school in the morning they always give each other a kiss and cuddle before they part ways.

I’m hoping it will last.

My sister was always my best friend growing up and even though we are now in our 40’s she’s still my favourite person (after DH and the children). We spend hours reminiscing and laughing about our childhood - I still think she’s fab!!!

Mine are still incredibly close and best friends at 16 & 18. DD is away at Uni now and they facetime most days and snap each other endlessly. When she is back she includes DS in many of her plans and they carve out a day or two to do something together. They are each other's biggest support/champions, first person to turn to when things go wrong, and they also make each other laugh more than anyone else.

As well as Uni, DD has had a serious bf for two years now so her time and priorities are more split, but she hasn't discarded DS and her boyfriend saw early on, that her brother was important to her and they are now friends too.

It's really lovely and many of our friends comment on how special their friendship is. They may well go different ways at some point, or be geographically separated for any length of time, but I don't think that bond will ever break.

My ds and dd, 23 and 15 love each other very much. Laugh a huge amount and share a lot of interests and enjoy spending time together.

I think their characters are very complimentary and they have a lot of mutual respect. I was keen to always foster a good relationship as much as I could but I think most of it is how well they get on from the beginning.

I think it's important not to set up rivalries between siblings if possible. I have seen poor sibling dynamics where the kids have been set up in competition with each other - maybe very unconsciously.

Mine are all adults.. four of them aged 26-32.
We've just spent two glorious weeks together in Australia where the DS1 now lives (of the others, one lives at home, one close by and one 4 hours away in the UK)
Listening to them all together, laughing, hugging, just enjoying each other's company as they are rarely all together for that long... was magic. They are all best friends still and support each other in every way.
The teen years were a bit iffy at times (Ds1 was an arse and the girls, two years apart, did argue) but they were still a squad, and if an outsider upset one of them the others were first to the rescue. They all have very different personalities but get on brilliantly.

It always makes me glad I had four, even though it was hard work at times!

I was close to my sisters growing up, but I'm NC with them in my 40s. In hindsight I think we played together so much because we only had each other for company, my parents never allowed play dates or took us out anywhere. We don't have any shared values now as adults and I've decided to focus on my own dcs and DH.

My DB is 2 years younger than me and is one of my best friends. We had a bit of a rough patch in our early twenties where we didn’t speak/ had a strained relationship for a couple years but one day we just started getting along again. I couldn’t imagine not being close to him, we didn’t have cousins our age growing up so spent a lot of time playing with each other at home, during school holidays etc. I think it’s natural for relationships to go through good and bad patches as life changes but there’s a special bond you have with your sibling so hopefully they will remain very good friends!

Mine are 18 and 15 and have always been close. They are each other’s best friend and enjoy spending time together. Has made my life tricky sometimes as I’m a single parent and they always side together!

Mine used to be this way...I can currently hear them arguing quite viciously about who eat all of the bread that was left for sandwiches. I don't doubt they love each other, they just don't show it atm.

@justjuggling

I'm in the same boat here, but mine are 17 and 14. People think it's great they get on so well (and I know it's a lot better than them not getting on) but I feel like an outsider in my own home half the time.

They back each other up when I am telling one of them off, they have really similar music tastes and they endlessly talk about their own stuff - which is absolutely fair enough and Lovely up to a point, but as the only other adult in the house it can feel a bit lonely sometimes and outnumbered!

My DDs are now mid 20s and still very close. When they were at university, they made the effort to visit each other and socialise with each others friends. Now they are living apart as adults in different cities, they still see each other at least every 2 weeks and message (or send memes!) every day. Their boyfriends also get on well which helps! They also socialise together with each other friends when back home.

Mine are 18 (DD) and 13 (DS). When DS was born DD was an amazing big sister. She used to get cross with me for being too careless with him ("he needs a warmer coat mum!" - she definitely fussed over him and he loved it!

Teen years were tough on her and she withdrew from all of us for a while. The age and gender gap was very apparent.

Now they're coming back together. DS thinks she's HILARIOUS. She tells him slightly inappropriate stories of the shenanigans her and her friends get up to and he loves it. She helps him with school politics and friendships. I came down recently and she was basically Cyrano - helping him have a text conversation with a girl he liked!

She's still "stinkypoo" in his phone. He's something ruder in hers.

Yesterday my sophisticated 18 year old hid behind a door for 10 mins in order to jump out at him in the dark wearing a shark onesie. He's plotting his revenge.

DH and I are older parents. I am happy that I think that whilst their relationship will ebb and flow over the years they will always have each other and love each other.

My two were like this at those ages (and boy/ girl).

They aren't now but they're 13/17 and I really hope they'll come back to being close once the teenage years pass.

Mine are now both in their 30s . Had a few minor spats as teenagers but are still very close today .