What % of invited guests won't come to a wedding?

[dooolly]

Our ideal venue is capped at 100. We have 130 people on our list. Looking at where people stay, health, families etc, it could be quite feasible to get down to even 90 people- but they could also say yes, we'd love to come and then we'd be screwed!

I think everyone came to ours except my cousin in Australia. People make an effort for weddings- it's not like a normal party.

Think we invited 64. We had two decline because unable to get childcare. Three said too unwell/elderly to travel. Two had a strop because children not invited. One recently widowed and didn’t feel up to it. Two others couldn’t make it but their partners came and brought a friend instead. So that’s just under 10%. Then on the day one was ill in hospital, and two got stuck in massive tailbacks because of a crash on the motorway and didn’t make it. So I think your risk factors are people over 70 and people travelling a long distance.

We had less than 10 missing out of 180 and 4 of those were last minute as their relative died that week. If I were you I’d speak to any outliers or bigger groups and just be honest that you might need to change venue if they all come.

We invited 120 people

Only 4 declined the invite (2 due to work commitments and 2 due to being too elderly/frail to travel). But that depends as for example I thought my 92 year old grandmother wouldn't come as it was about 200 miles away from her home but she did.

A further 2 were unable to make it on the day due to illness.

I would ask the oversees guest if they are able to attend. We invited MILs family that live abroad to be polite and because she told us they wouldn't come. Well they bloody well did come 😂

Our venue was capped at 100 but was very laid back with lots of outside space. We officially invited about 150, about 140 turned up plus about 20 others/+1s. It was very fun! With your numbers I wouldn't expect that many to decline.

Send out first round invites with a reply by date then send out a second round after that if any of the first round decline.
I have definitely been invited on a second round before and didn’t mind and still went to the wedding! (It was an old school friend I hadn’t seen for ages, I was just pleased to be invited at all as knew we weren’t really in touch)

Choose the place you want and then just don't invite children.
We probably had about 5% decline and then another didn't show on the day.