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Parents Dying

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 18:59

I am posting here for traffic. please, if it's not too painful, can you tell me about the indicators that it is final stages of dementia. it's been 7 years and my mum is bed ridden, doubly incontinent, barely verbal, sleeps most of the time, good appetite

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AnEmbarrasmentofWitches · 27/02/2024 19:01

I believe stopping eating is often a sign, and in the final couple of days stopping drinking too.

Bellarella · 27/02/2024 19:03

My mum was pretty much as you describe, for a number of months. She then stopped being able to swallow and 24 hours later had died.

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:04

AnEmbarrasmentofWitches · 27/02/2024 19:01

I believe stopping eating is often a sign, and in the final couple of days stopping drinking too.

that's what I thought. nothing else is working, except her digestive system though! that's not true is it, all internal organs are good but I suppose it's communication, cognition and mobility...is that what they call locked in??

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:05

Bellarella · 27/02/2024 19:03

My mum was pretty much as you describe, for a number of months. She then stopped being able to swallow and 24 hours later had died.

thanks for posting and sorry for your loss. I really hope it is that quick once eating stops

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:07

GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:04

that's what I thought. nothing else is working, except her digestive system though! that's not true is it, all internal organs are good but I suppose it's communication, cognition and mobility...is that what they call locked in??

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oh, no it's not! just googled locked in syndrome, they retain cognition. awful

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ReetPetity · 27/02/2024 19:10

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My Mum passed away from Parkinsons and dementia nearly 8 years ago now and it's a tough place to be. Stopping eating was a big sign with my Mum, but more than that we just knew... She seemed different somehow. I was assured that when she stopped eating it was because her body just wasn't hungry any more so she wasn't suffering, and she definitely didn't seem to be. We stayed with her, played songs she loved, and she seemed very peaceful at the end.

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:12

ReetPetity · 27/02/2024 19:10

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My Mum passed away from Parkinsons and dementia nearly 8 years ago now and it's a tough place to be. Stopping eating was a big sign with my Mum, but more than that we just knew... She seemed different somehow. I was assured that when she stopped eating it was because her body just wasn't hungry any more so she wasn't suffering, and she definitely didn't seem to be. We stayed with her, played songs she loved, and she seemed very peaceful at the end.

it's the hardest thing I have ever had to do tbh. my mum has P as well. it's torturous

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GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:14

ReetPetity · 27/02/2024 19:10

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My Mum passed away from Parkinsons and dementia nearly 8 years ago now and it's a tough place to be. Stopping eating was a big sign with my Mum, but more than that we just knew... She seemed different somehow. I was assured that when she stopped eating it was because her body just wasn't hungry any more so she wasn't suffering, and she definitely didn't seem to be. We stayed with her, played songs she loved, and she seemed very peaceful at the end.

oh blimey, how rude of me, sorry for your loss. doesn't really count as an after thought does it 😬...thanks for posting anyway and hope you will forgive me, I am exhausted and not really functioning normally

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repopupieres · 27/02/2024 19:15

Sending flowers OP 💐

penjil · 27/02/2024 21:03

GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:07

oh, no it's not! just googled locked in syndrome, they retain cognition. awful

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Locked-in syndrome is quite something else, and nothing to do with dementia.

Some brain injury patients have it, and also people who have contracted Weil's disease or laptospiriosis are also at risk of it.

ReetPetity · 28/02/2024 04:00

GriseldaBlanco · 27/02/2024 19:14

oh blimey, how rude of me, sorry for your loss. doesn't really count as an after thought does it 😬...thanks for posting anyway and hope you will forgive me, I am exhausted and not really functioning normally

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please don’t worry. I was all over the place when I was going through the same. Sending flowers 💐

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