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My sister just assaulted me in front of my elderly mother

32 replies

NameChangeAntenna · 26/02/2024 11:20

Just that . My younger sister who has form for being verbally abusive, plays the victim and had threatened to assault people in the past has physically assaulted me at our elderly mothers house. She’s drawn blood and caused bruising. Why ? Because I put my phone on “ do not disturb “ during a busy shift .

OP posts:
Type2c · 26/02/2024 11:22

Report her to the police.

Aviee · 26/02/2024 11:22

Your poor mum and you.

Are you going to report her to the police?

Original poster
NameChangeAntenna · 26/02/2024 11:28

I attempted to call the police while she was still there but my mum begged me not to . She’s just post heart attack . I feel very angry , sad and humiliated . She’s always been nasty but has got worse . I’m still bleeding and it’s broken skin so will at least report to my GP as I think I need a tetanus shot .

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Aviee · 26/02/2024 19:09

Did she bite you?

I would honestly report her to the police. That's deranged.

BMW6 · 26/02/2024 19:44

Your Mum is enabling her. Sorry she's unwell but DONT TAKE THIS SHIT

notthefrontdoor · 26/02/2024 19:49

Report to police. You don't need to discuss with your mum. So sorry you're going through this. Next time it might be worse

britneyisfree · 26/02/2024 19:51

Police!!!!

Galeforcewindatmywindow · 26/02/2024 19:51

Your dm doesn't get to decide... Right now dm is recovering. One day you could be post op recovering from a stabbing...

Queenmaker · 26/02/2024 19:52

Report her. Someone needs to show her their are boundaries to her behaviour.

RedHelenB · 26/02/2024 19:53

I'd be surprised if you need a tetanus jab.

TraitorsGate · 26/02/2024 19:55

Take photos. Hospital or doctor for tetanus, call the police. Is mum safe, are you safe now. How did it happen, did she bite you.

crumblingschools · 26/02/2024 19:56

@RedHelenB doesn’t that depend on how she drew blood, they do recommend after human bite

RedToothBrush · 26/02/2024 19:57

NameChangeAntenna · 26/02/2024 11:28

I attempted to call the police while she was still there but my mum begged me not to . She’s just post heart attack . I feel very angry , sad and humiliated . She’s always been nasty but has got worse . I’m still bleeding and it’s broken skin so will at least report to my GP as I think I need a tetanus shot .

Report her to the police. Next time it could be your post-op mother and it could kill her.

purplecorkheart · 26/02/2024 20:02

You need to report this. You do not have to tell your Mom that you are doing so. You need to do this to protect your Mom as well as yourself. The likelihood that your Mom has experienced this abuse too but feels because it is a family member that she should/cannot do anything about it.

Op you are in an awful situation. Sending you all my support and best wishes.

PonyPatter44 · 26/02/2024 20:09

If its a bite, you need a tetanus booster. Your sister's not the full shilling, is she? And I would definitely be reporting it to the police - I don't allow people to assault me, whether or not they are barking mad. Sadly, I am with @purplecorkheart - there is a real risk your poor mum could already have been a victim of your snapper sister.

tryingtobenormalish · 26/02/2024 21:57

If my sister assaulted me she would be assaulted right back.
Not the advice id give to anyone but im from a different breed.

Cherrysoup · 26/02/2024 22:23

Please report her, that’s appalling. Hope you’re ok.

Original poster
NameChangeAntenna · 27/02/2024 04:22

PonyPatter44 · 26/02/2024 20:09

If its a bite, you need a tetanus booster. Your sister's not the full shilling, is she? And I would definitely be reporting it to the police - I don't allow people to assault me, whether or not they are barking mad. Sadly, I am with @purplecorkheart - there is a real risk your poor mum could already have been a victim of your snapper sister.

Sadly she’s always had depression which she is on medication for. I have noticed that she’s become an extremely angry person. Hasn’t assaulted my mother thankfully and I honestly don’t think she would. It was a vicious lash at me as she took offence with a text message …which wasn’t anything out of the ordinary but she was angry that I set my phone to do not disturb. No I agree it’s NOT normal behaviour. Unhinged and very sad.

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HomeTheatreSystem · 27/02/2024 04:56

You can still report to the police once you've left your mother's house though. Did she scratch you to draw blood or use an object? I think reporting is the right thing to do otherwise she will see herself as having got away with it and might do more next time.

Tourmalines · 27/02/2024 05:07

As much as you love your mum it’s not her choice . This just lets her get away with it . Report it .

Tilllly · 27/02/2024 05:33

HomeTheatreSystem · 27/02/2024 04:56

You can still report to the police once you've left your mother's house though. Did she scratch you to draw blood or use an object? I think reporting is the right thing to do otherwise she will see herself as having got away with it and might do more next time.

Totally agree with this

It's not about being punitive, it's about your sister putting the brakes on

honestguvnor · 27/02/2024 05:58

Do report to police/take photos. Otherwise what's to stop her doing it again

Zyq · 27/02/2024 06:56

Can you persuade her to see a doctor about her issues with anger and her mental health generally? If necessary point out to her that if she doesn't address it, it is only a matter of time before the police get involved.

Tel12 · 27/02/2024 06:59

You do need to report this as the violence is obviously escalating from verbal to physical. There has to be a line drawn.

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 27/02/2024 07:18

Stop enabling this bullshit, she needs a reality check.

Your mother isn't going to keel over because her precious dd finally learns that playing stupid games wins stupid prizes.