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WWYD: FTB 1 bed solo vs 2 bed with lodger

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ll345 · 25/02/2024 12:12

Hi all,

I'm an early 30's FTB in London, and would really appreciate some input on my situation. I'm looking to buy somewhere in zone 2/3. I'm recently single, and have been renting with my sister for a few years. I unfortunately can't afford to buy in the neighbourhood I live in, so will be moving to a new neighbourhood. I am looking at a 5 year fixed term. I am considering two different options:

1)* *Buy a nice 1 bed flat for 300-350k in a nicer area. I realistically won't be able to overpay the mortgage much in this scenario, as I'll be paying service charge/bills on my own. The main advantage to this scenario as I see it are the independence of living on my own/sense of 'growing up' that would bring. However, I am concerned that I might find it quite lonely living on my own (I never have done), and if I find a partner I presumably won't want to stay living in a 1 bed, so will have to move again at some point in the future, which will involve stress/money for solicitors/moving/stamp duty etc. I've also read a one bed can be harder to sell, however, the desirable one beds in the areas I'm looking in don't seem to be staying on the market long, so I don't know if that's such a concern. I've decided I don't want children, so that is not a consideration.

  1. Buy a nice 2 bed flat for 400-450k in a slightly less nice area. Take my sister as a lodger (I've discussed this with her and she is happy to do this) and use the money I would charge in rent to help pay service charge/overpay the mortgage until the fixed term ends, at which point I can hopefully remortgage at a much lower rate. The advantages to this would be I would have someone to split bills with, and won't be lonely! Having the extra bedroom will be helpful in having someone help pay the mortgage, whether it's my sister, or somebody else if they move out. Also I presumably won't have to move again for a long time (even if I find a new partner), and the 2 bed will hopefully be a bit easier to sell if/when the time comes. I think this option will also work out slightly cheaper for me overall in terms of monthly outgoings, so I'll have more disposable income. However, although most of the time I enjoy living with my sister, sometimes I do find it quite stifling. Some days I'm happy to be living with her, other days I feel like I want my own space. I'm wondering if it is a mistake to make this level of financial commitment that involves relying on another person. For all that I am happy to live with her now, I'm not sure if I'll still feel the same in 5 years' time! I also wonder if continuing to have a flatmate (especially a sibling) will make it harder for me to find a new relationship. Although I could afford to pay the mortgage for the 400-450k place on my own, I couldn't afford to overpay, and would be burning more money monthly in interest/service charge than I'm currently paying in rent, so feel I'd be better off just staying renting.

I know I could always do option 2 with a lodger I don't know, but to be honest right now this option is really not appealing to me right now.

Basically, I feel option 2 is the more sensible decision for long-term financial planning, but it's more of a toss up between the two as to which is the better choice for me as to the stage I'm at in my life and personal growth.

Just to add, I'm a freelancer, and my income will not be increasing beyond where it's at now, apart from inflation-related increases to my rates.

What would you do? Just curious to hear others' opinions.

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Ginmonkeyagain · 25/02/2024 12:18

A third option is to look at areas of London where you can buy a two bed flat for £350k

ll345 · 25/02/2024 12:23

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/02/2024 12:18

A third option is to look at areas of London where you can buy a two bed flat for £350k

Thanks for the reply

I have looked into this! However for a proper 2 bed (not a bedroom and a study), I'd be looking at moving further out again. I'm trying to keep my commute to under 40 minutes door-to-door so haven't found anything right now that would work. But maybe I should look at this some more

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TheBeesKnee · 25/02/2024 12:24

Is your sister happy being just a lodger and helping you to get on the property ladder? Would she not want a stake in the property? I would worry that she would grow to resent "paying off" your mortgage to be honest and I would avoid mixing money and family or friends.

In your position I would buy a 2 bed and take in a stranger as a lodger. If you're in a good location you could see if there's any interest for a Monday-friday let for people living far away but working in London? That way you could get some breathing room at the weekend.

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PTSDBarbiegirl · 25/02/2024 12:26

Buy a 1 bed then you retain more control.

EmpressaurusOfTheScathingTinsel · 25/02/2024 12:27

It sounds like there’s much less risk of falling out with your sister if you get the one bed. Also living alone is brilliant IMO.

OrigamiOwls · 25/02/2024 12:34

What would happen if your sister moved out? You might be stuck having to get a stranger in as a lodger. Does your sister not want to get on the property ladder herself?

Not saying that option 2 is a bad idea, just some things to consider

parietal · 25/02/2024 12:36

I think the one bed is a good option. You will be self reliant and have lower bills.

Getting a partner wouldn't immediately mean having to sell either. S/he might have a place, or you could share the one bed for a while or whatever.

karmakameleon · 25/02/2024 12:37

I was in the situation many moons ago and chose the one bed. It worked out well as when I met DH and was ready to move in with him, he wasn’t majorly keen on the area I lived in. He also had his own savings and earnt similar to me so our budget doubled. We moved into a two bed in a more central location that we both loved.

Bethebest · 25/02/2024 12:37

I would definitely go for the one bed/living alone option. It can be bliss!

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/02/2024 13:17

@ll345 SE London is your friend here. I am not sure what area to recommend as I don't know where you need to be no more than 40 mins from!

Usernamefoundunderthebed · 25/02/2024 13:24

Why not buy with your sister as tenants in common?

BIossomtoes · 25/02/2024 13:28

I’d go for Option 2. Living alone is over rated.

tomago · 25/02/2024 13:29

One bed. Your sister might move out. You only need one bed.

LeSoleil · 25/02/2024 13:47

Option 2, as Blossom said.

ll345 · 25/02/2024 16:22

Thanks all for your replies! Really appreciate hearing what you think

@TheBeesKnee yes, I have considered this re possible resentment building up. I'll definitely think it over some more

@karmakameleon That is so interesting to hear! Really glad to hear it worked out for you 😊

@Ginmonkeyagain The City for work! I'm currently looking in Limehouse and Deptford. I am a bit hesitant to rely on trains though as opposed to tube if I'm honest

@OrigamiOwls @Usernamefoundunderthebed I have discussed this option with her but she's definite she's not interested in getting a mortgage right now. I think that option could also end quite messily if one of us wanted to move/found a partner etc. I'm not sure how we'd get our equity back without selling the place.

Will have a further think!

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Ginmonkeyagain · 25/02/2024 16:31

@ll345 Oh. SE London is fine for the City. Lots of areas have direct trains to London Bridge and/or Cannon st, some are on the Overground so you can go to Whitechapel and then the Elizabeth Line to Liverpool st. Finally Lewisham and Deptford are on the DLR so straight in to Bank.

ll345 · 25/02/2024 17:52

Ginmonkeyagain · 25/02/2024 16:31

@ll345 Oh. SE London is fine for the City. Lots of areas have direct trains to London Bridge and/or Cannon st, some are on the Overground so you can go to Whitechapel and then the Elizabeth Line to Liverpool st. Finally Lewisham and Deptford are on the DLR so straight in to Bank.

Thank you! Yes a good few options indeed

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EmpressaurusOfTheScathingTinsel · 26/02/2024 03:35

Having that range is also hugely useful if there’s a strike on, because there’s more likely to be something still running.

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