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Can't let ot go to shit again.

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 09:36

I'm letting the house cleaning slip again . It's not as bad as it used to be. But it's still a bit shit and grubby.

My neighbour locked herself out the other day I couldn't even let her in because the house was a mess.

I have been so drained and tired again recently. My eyes fill heavy all the time and I can't shake that just woken up feeling of all day. I'm breathless again as well . And it's actually all my own fault I'm meant to be taking folic acid for low iron . I was meant to take it for 3 months then get rechecked bloods done. Did I do it nope took some. Then started forgetting here and there then the gap gew and then I stopped . Such a simple thing and I fuck it up. I was in chemist a couple of days ago . I asked for 5mg folic acid. They only do that on prescription. So what do I do . Leave it instead of getting the 4mg wtf.

So basically my house is a mess because I didn't stick to taking 1 pill a day . Could even stick to that even though the knock on effect is shit .

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WhoaJayShettybambalam · 25/02/2024 12:19

Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 11:40

Sort off. I have never agreed that I have mental health issues. But I think I do show some symptoms. But I also had not realised that the lack of iron /folic acid can be a reason for mental Health side of things. Which is why I Need to stop being stupid and just sort it.

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I only asked as I wondered why pp jumped to poor mental health.

You are not stupid.

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 12:31

MisMatchUpDown088 · 25/02/2024 12:04

Have you had your vitamin D checked?

I've spent around 8 months feeling exhausted. Days out have left me needing at least 24 hours to recover.

My house got so bad I couldnt have visitors. I'd been out with my sister for the day, she needed a wee after dropping me home and I couldnt let her in my house I was so ashamed.

In the end, my mum and my sister forced me to accept their help to sort the house out and I'm so glad they did because I've been keeping on top of it for the last few weeks, it's not show home but it's just lived in now instead of horrifically messy. After that I went to the GP, they offered blood tests and turns out I have really low vitamin d which apparently can make you feel exhausted

Also - I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and some of the things you've said

  • Not being able to take medicine every day - it was 10 days ago they put the prescription in the pharmacy, it's a 3 minute walk from my house and I still havnt been able to bring myself to go and get it

I know what I need to do it's the doing it part

I know what I need to do. And my brain will shout and scream at me constantly to get it done. Will I be able to get up and do it though? Unlikely and not often.

My memory is terrible to and if I dont do somthing instantly then it probably wont get done for a while

I have such good intentions with everything but unless I'm on top form and feeling great I just cannot bring myself to do half of it

I'd have a read up of adult women ADHD because just from your comments I think you have it

I had bloods done. Which how folic acid /iron thing came up. Nothing was mentioned about vitamin D.

Yes I'm simlar hence I did nlt let my neighbour in. I had to do similar to you . But no one to help in that way . But people on here were fantastic and I would not have done it without their encouragement and support. I definitely got on top of things. It took a long time . But it still gets into a mess pretty quickly and not let people in friendly.

I don't really understand ADHD. I don't think I have it though. As I can finish things/get things done and fucus on what needs to be done. If I'm.in the right mindset and I have the energy to do it. I do have learning difficulties. Some of my kids have special needs. Don't think there's a link though. I think I judt nedf to take the bloody tablet 🤦‍♀️

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 12:39

WhoaJayShettybambalam · 25/02/2024 12:19

I only asked as I wondered why pp jumped to poor mental health.

You are not stupid.

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Ah that's OK. I can kind of see why people may think its mental health. But my bloods are showing its the iron thing . So I would much rather tick that box and sort it. Its really down to me .

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GinandGingerBeer · 25/02/2024 12:56

Associate the iron with something you do every single day.
I take loads of meds and they're in my routine so that's ok and I don't forget. But I've recently started taking a supplement that I have to drink in a morning before my coffee.
I'd forget every single morning so now I keep the small shot glass I use in my teaspoon compartment and I don't forget anymore.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 25/02/2024 15:55

Put the tablets next to the kettle and take one while waiting for it to boil
Put an alarm reminder on your phone if that would help too

Priminister · 25/02/2024 15:57

Do you think it might be helpful to you if you stopped posting all these different threads under different user names and kept it in one thread? That way, you can keep track of all the advice people have given you.

PeggySooo · 25/02/2024 16:22

The clue to it being at least somewhat related to mental health is the way you talk about yourself. Calling yourself names etc. It suggests it's probably more than just the folate

PeggySooo · 25/02/2024 16:24

They don't test for vitamin D in blood tests at the Dr's unless specifically requested. It's not included in a general one. So even if it was low, you wouldn't know.

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 17:01

Priminister · 25/02/2024 15:57

Do you think it might be helpful to you if you stopped posting all these different threads under different user names and kept it in one thread? That way, you can keep track of all the advice people have given you.

I can post how and when I want to . Some things are not always about advice. More saying it out loud and kind of someone to talk to even of its little stuff. People often only read the very first OP I then spend half the thread saying this is not what it's about just now.

Now if I did not post on mn I would be even more isolated. This allows Me to talk to people. I have my kids here but adult wise I could go days/weeks without talking to anyone.

I hope my posting has not effected you to much and I'm not causing you any upset

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 17:07

PeggySooo · 25/02/2024 16:22

The clue to it being at least somewhat related to mental health is the way you talk about yourself. Calling yourself names etc. It suggests it's probably more than just the folate

I don't really call myself names in a bad way . I'm just pissed of with myself thats all it's nothing deep. Sometimes it might be . But other times it's not a deep thing.

The vitamin D thing when I had my bloods done . I told the gp . That I was really run down , tired , drained , couldn't get up the stairs very breathless. And weak. Get tired just doing small things . So I don't know if the vitamin D one will have been done 🤔

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Priminister · 25/02/2024 18:20

Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 17:01

I can post how and when I want to . Some things are not always about advice. More saying it out loud and kind of someone to talk to even of its little stuff. People often only read the very first OP I then spend half the thread saying this is not what it's about just now.

Now if I did not post on mn I would be even more isolated. This allows Me to talk to people. I have my kids here but adult wise I could go days/weeks without talking to anyone.

I hope my posting has not effected you to much and I'm not causing you any upset

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Blimey, no need to bite my head off.

I suggested it because you have multiple threads under various user names which are broadly about the same things and I thought it might be helpful for you and easier to keep track of what advice and suggestions people have given you for your various issues.

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Shamefullhouse · 25/02/2024 18:25

Priminister · 25/02/2024 18:20

Blimey, no need to bite my head off.

I suggested it because you have multiple threads under various user names which are broadly about the same things and I thought it might be helpful for you and easier to keep track of what advice and suggestions people have given you for your various issues.

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I'm sorry you feel I have bitten your head of . And that's how you have read my reply . I also felt like you were attacking me for posting . I do not feel that your post came across in a nice way. So I guess we both felt similar.

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