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Repressed, but breaking out!

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KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 17:57

I feel as though I've been repressed all my life, too scared to do anything wrong, always expecting to be told no or told off. I've had enough of being a good girl and want to rebel. So, what can I (legally!) do to be rebellious or less repressed?

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Hermittrismegistus · 24/02/2024 18:11

Well, what have you always stopped yourself from doing?

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 18:39

Hermittrismegistus · 24/02/2024 18:11

Well, what have you always stopped yourself from doing?

Good question!
Anything that someone might not like, cos that's what my mother always said, "don't do that or people won't like you"
On holiday recently I went skinny dipping, never done that before, always thought that people wouldn't approve, actually nothing happened, which was marvellous.

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Mementomorissons · 24/02/2024 18:42

Personally I wouldn't discount the illegal stuff.

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 20:15

Mementomorissons · 24/02/2024 18:42

Personally I wouldn't discount the illegal stuff.

Interesting 😁 are you able to elaborate??

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FiloPasty · 24/02/2024 20:16

What are your age and interests currently. Are you in a relationship?

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 20:18

Newname0 · 24/02/2024 18:04

You could always go and see Napalm Death 😀
Seriously, they are very good if a somewhat acquired taste.
https://www.stereoboard.com/napalm-death-tickets

I wouldn't say no, but I'm not close by, I'm Bristol area, but would consider similar, closer.

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CheerfulBardo · 24/02/2024 20:18

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 18:39

Good question!
Anything that someone might not like, cos that's what my mother always said, "don't do that or people won't like you"
On holiday recently I went skinny dipping, never done that before, always thought that people wouldn't approve, actually nothing happened, which was marvellous.

But some people aren’t going to like repression, so where does that get you?

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 20:21

CheerfulBardo · 24/02/2024 20:18

But some people aren’t going to like repression, so where does that get you?

Well I didn't like repression, turns out it's messed me up, now would like to see if I can do some new things

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KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 20:25

FiloPasty · 24/02/2024 20:16

What are your age and interests currently. Are you in a relationship?

Married, adult children with own places. Age 50's, hobbies walking, dogs, I'm a teacher (can't bring the profession into disrepute!)

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uhOhOP · 24/02/2024 20:28

Have you ever wanted a piercing?

Smartiepants79 · 24/02/2024 20:38

Things like hair cuts, piercings, tattoos.
Try a new, totally left field hobby.
Make sure you’re dressing the way you want to not how you think 50 year old teachers dress (at home anyway!)

SomersetTart · 24/02/2024 21:08

Keep your library books beyond their return date.
Join a profanity embroidery group.
Tell your mother how horrible it was to be told "don't do that or people won't like you"
Join a group who campaign about something you feel really strongly about and then go to protests and shout, scream, wave a flag and blow a whistle.
Hand your notice in and bugger off somewhere fantastic with your husband for a year. (Read The Salt Path or Burn by Ben Short for inspiration)

PurpleBugz · 24/02/2024 21:15

Attend a let women speak event and become a feminist activist.

KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 22:19

SomersetTart · 24/02/2024 21:08

Keep your library books beyond their return date.
Join a profanity embroidery group.
Tell your mother how horrible it was to be told "don't do that or people won't like you"
Join a group who campaign about something you feel really strongly about and then go to protests and shout, scream, wave a flag and blow a whistle.
Hand your notice in and bugger off somewhere fantastic with your husband for a year. (Read The Salt Path or Burn by Ben Short for inspiration)

Some excellent ideas here, will think about talking to my mother, hair colour is definitely an option and I am leaving husband at home this year for a few months while I go off on an adventure. I've read salt path, will look for burn, thank you

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KnittingSister · 24/02/2024 22:31

Womad sounds interesting, we have been to Greenbelt, but I'm not sure that's sufficiently rebellious!

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kerstina · 25/02/2024 08:58

Can I join in with you OP I could describe myself similarly. A typical INFP who always feels they have to be good and do the right things.

KnittingSister · 25/02/2024 18:06

kerstina · 25/02/2024 08:58

Can I join in with you OP I could describe myself similarly. A typical INFP who always feels they have to be good and do the right things.

The more the merrier!
I plan to be more alert to check why I am doing or not something. Is it my own preference or am I doing it to please someone else?

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OceanicBoundlessness · 25/02/2024 18:40

They to catch that thought "ooh I could never" then do it. It can lead you some marvellous places.

If you like walking, how about trying wild camping. Or just camping on your own somewhere tranquil. There's a lot to be said for taking time completely on your own.

KnittingSister · 25/02/2024 18:55

OceanicBoundlessness · 25/02/2024 18:40

They to catch that thought "ooh I could never" then do it. It can lead you some marvellous places.

If you like walking, how about trying wild camping. Or just camping on your own somewhere tranquil. There's a lot to be said for taking time completely on your own.

That sounds like an excellent idea, I'll try to do some 'ooh I could never' things 😁

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