If you've been disappointed with Mother's Day in the past

[TheScenicWay]

then it might be a good time to mention it and exclaim 'oh, it's Mother's Day next Sunday!'
Shops will be less busy this weekend. There's less stress. Cards can be made. No one in the family can claim they didn't know.

There are always sad threads every Mother's Day when people feel forgotten and unappreciated. Help your dc to value you even if your dp is rubbish.

Isn't it on the 10th?

Good shout though. There are lots of disappointed threads where it is forgotten.

Oh yes. I'm 2 weeks ahead! Great. More notice time

Honestly my family don’t do Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. My parents have always said that insisting on an annual celebration day for yourself because of a decision that you chose to make is asinine. I’m inclined to agree.

My DS is a bit crap but I don't get offended. He'll realise it's Mothers Day about 5pm on the day. I refuse to tell him. I just laugh now.

I take myself out for a nice lunch

Mothers day, fathers day, grand parents day are all ridiculous and just a commercial money maker. But I get that my dc want to recognise it because their friends do and it's the 'done' thing. All I would like on the day is a verbal Thank you for EVERYTHING I do. And i mean everything as I do it all. And maybe my fav meal. I'll organise mothers day for my mum, I don't have the money but I'll take her out, I'll get card and plant for MIL. Just another day for me

I've told DH to take DS out for the day that day (I'll still have the baby at home but at least will have a bit of peace)!

I book my own lunch out with the family, saves disappointment. I couldn't care about much else but a card is nice. My DH makes that happen from my teens (he's not their dad).

I know lots of people don't care one way or the other. But some people feel hurt because they're probably never shown any appreciation. I still think it's important to help your children to learn to appreciate you if you've got a crap partner who doesn't.
Of course, they should show they love you and value you all year round then no one would care about this day but not everyone is in such a loving environment.

I also think that time shows you care more than throwing money at something but that's my personal view.
That's why taking time to make some breakfast, bake a cake, watching a film of my choice, going for a walk, hugs and 'I love you's means way more to me than a card.
One year ds bought me a chilli plant and looked after it and tended to it all year (til mil killed it when we went on holiday)
It bought a smile to my face every time I used a darned chilli.

We barely really do Mothers' Day, Fathers' Day or any other such bollocks. They're just another day to us and I certainly don't want breakfast in bed. I want to do my own and do it my way because I am a fussy old goat.

I do send a card to my mother. My DDs might send me one or message but it isn't a bige thing and I am not bothered if they don't.

If anyone suggests a pub lunch on any given weekend (not specifically for Mothers' Day) I could be up for it though. 😉😃 But none of these stupidly expensive special menus aimed at extracting the most money possible for the occasion!!

Erm no, I don’t think a child needs to ‘show appreciation’ in lieu of an unappreciative partner… again that’s a crap partner you are choosing to be with.

@rileyy there seem to be so many women with crap partners who don't feel valued at all. The women don't want to appear to be demanding so say nothing.
Children learn from what they're taught so all I'm saying is for those in that situation, teach your children yourselves.

@TheScenicWay I understand what you’re saying and I completely agree, many women do have partners that undervalue them.
I am just pointing out that feeling under appreciated is not a deficit that I think we should look to our children to fill. If we find ourselves under appreciated in a relationship then the adults in said relationship need to look at what they are modeling for the children and if the relationship is a good example of what they would want for their own children, instead of settling with a significant other that doesn’t appreciate them. If so..do something about it.
I absolutely agree that children need to learn to appreciate the things that are done for them, but I think that is a 24h/365 day kind of thing. Not relegated to one random designated day.