Often being mistaken as pregnant

[BirdsRoundandRound]

I would say I get asked if I'm pregnant, or offered a seat, or some kind of comment that makes me realise the person thinks I'm pregnant once every couple of months.

Whilst I could probably do with losing a little weight, even at a lower BMI I've always had a little pot belly, made worse by pregnancies but the main issue is IBS bloating, I have slim arms and legs which probably makes it look more pronounced.

Whilst I can mostly take it in my stride the last couple of comments have got me down. I was at a work event and feeling good in a floaty maxi dress, when a client asked me if congratulations were in order. I breezily said 'oh I'm way beyond that, it's too much cheese' and he was mortified (but you'd think by his 60s he'd know better than to ask!) but I saw a photo of myself after and I can see why he thought it.

I'm going through a v stressful time atm so my IBS is having a big flare (I can be bloated on an empty stomach) but i feel horrible and embarrassed.

Does anyone else have this and how do you deal? I've just lost nearly a stone through stress and my tummy is still proudly there!

They shouldn't be commenting. This isn't on you.

However, have you considered if your clothing looks similar to "maternity wear"?

I feel for you - the bloating is real. I do wonder if posture plays a part too? I know when I'm more slouchy or not standing up properly, my tummy always looks a bit pregnant whatever my BMI.

I wouldn't say it does usually no, but because I can get bloated I find it hard to wear belts round my waist.

I agree no one should comment but they do!

Good point on posture, though I am usually pretty good at this. Maybe less so when sitting.

I really feel for you. I also carry all my weight around my belly (not IBS, just actually too much cheese!)
Luckily I've only ever had one comment - someone offered me a seat on the tube and when I looked confused, they were mortified.
But I know I DO look pregnant quite often.
There isn't really much you can do; people really shouldn't comment but they do.
Also I think that the fact that this gentleman was in his 60s means he's more likely to comment - I think the younger generation have been (hopefully) educated to avoid comments like these!