Unsure if I want children

[Nobadvibes]

Single and not really desperate for a partner. Tbh I quite like my life, career, house multiple holidays a year.

i just feel this mounting pressure around children. I dont really know if I want them or not. I would say I lean to not.

Children are a serious commitment in my many ways. I just don’t know how to answer or respond when it comes up.

My best friend is away this week and I’m looking after her 3 children. Told someone at work and they went oh practicing for when you have them. I honestly didn’t know to respond and the whole situation caused me stressed if anything

My dcs were unplanned so I've never really stressed about this. I think if it's meant to be then it'll happen and if not then there's no point worrying about it. If you don't have a partner then it won't happen anyway (unless I guess you have casual sex).

I don’t have casual sex

Its not the getting pregnant part but the conversation around having children

How old are you OP?

If you're not sure, don't have them
You have to really want them

Like dogs x 1000000000000

"I dont really know if I want them or not. I would say I lean to not."

That ^^ sounds like a fair enough response.

When people say these things, they don't really care OP, they're just making conversation.

It doesn't need to be a big deal - before I had children I was very much child free, definitely not having kids type of person and I said so when these types of comments came up - I used to say I'm happy just having my cat honestly.

Don't pressure yourself into giving any sort of answer.

I'm a mother but I don't think there is any need to have kids. I have a several friends who don't want children. It's a lot of commitment, expensive.

Financially: Nursery, childcare bigger house, food, I now pay for 4 people to go away, not 2.

Emotionally: well your entire life changes.