I'll say at the start it was a lucky escape, I'm not at all sorry, but I am curious as to WTF was going through his mind.
Man I've known for a long time and who was a good friend to me and DH during DH's long illness. He was my friend rather than DH's, but supported us both at a time when we needed it and many people seemed to disappear. I'll always be very grateful for that.
After DH died we were friends for about 2 years, a bit flirtatious after a drink maybe but nothing ever happened. Then gradually it became something else, we spent more time together, those little touches became a feature, we had in jokes etc.
He started asking me out 121. We had a night out, few drinks and ended up snogging. At the time, I thought it was a one off drunken snog and we'd both be embarrassed in the morning, but it didn't turn out like that and very briefly we were an item, kinifof, although we never slept together.
A weekend away with friends was planned. It had always been arranged that we would share, being the only two single people. This was originally arranged a long time previously on a purely platonic basis, which would have been absolutely fine, but in in view of the step change, I thought things would be different in the event.
A few days before the trip, he told me he thought it best we stayed friends, I'd had rough time, he wasn't looking for anything serious (neither am I!), I have a good heart and he didn't want to ruin things between us.
We went on the trip, he was perfectly well behaved, we had a great time and have remained good friends since. I agree with him, we're better off this way, but what happened?
Or just take him at face value, the friendship is more important....?