Things Mumsnet really helped you with a gratitude thread

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Last year when my mum died I had sone really stellar advice to appoint a solicitor to deal with the estate and to contact the local ones see if they had her will. I did appoint one and she has been amazing and really got me organised. I wouldn't have done this otherwise as it's not been advice I got anywhere else.

Just want to say a huge thank you and ask for your mn positive stories xx

I read about someone having bariatric surgery. I’d been thinking about it for a while, and she gave me the confidence to do it.

2.5 years later, over 14.5 stones down and I’m a new woman with zero regrets.

This is so lovely to hear.

I was alone, thousands of miles away from home and my life had just been turned upside down.
I posted here out of pure desperation and being utterly lost, and some amazing people got me through the night.

I will never thank them enough.

I was on holiday somewhere quite remote, had just arrived on a Friday evening, with the only local medical clinic not opening again till Monday, when toddler DS was suddenly in extreme discomfort — I knew it wasn’t serious, but he was hurting and upset, and I was a bit rattled. Mn diagnosed it and suggested interim treatment till I could get to a pharmacy.

Adoring this thread already. Can't help thinking of a poster called trinity I haven't seen in years now on here and wondering how she's doing. Iirc mners gave irl support in a difficult time.

Sure there are vipers, but so? There also are wee loves, I'm here for them!

That is a lovely way of putting it, I agree 😊

MN is a way to hear the voices of women I might never ordinarily meet. It’s often been thought provoking, instructive and sometimes given me a belly laugh. I’ve learned a lot about all sorts of things, and it’s given me a broader perspective on life.

MN has made me appreciate so much that I have and had taken for granted.

Its helped me with boundaries and thus helped DD's with theirs.

DD's in awe of my gift buying and suggestions to them - most of it from here 😂

I love so many different pov that I don't think I'd encounter irl

Someone on here anonymously recommended I contact a charity called globalarrk for parents (women) stuck in a non-home country and without legal right to move back home with the children. It opened up a whole world of support, advice, guidance, guide to court, just brilliant. I was seriously armed with knowledge for when my day in court came. And then I won my case! So thank you to that poster, who commented a bit out of context on the main topic and got me in the exact right direction. You did me a great favour that day!

A few years back a mumsnetter in Scotland helped me by buying wine and chocolates and delivering them to a hotel my mum was staying at. I really wanted to send her a thank you card but I lost access to my account for some reason. If you are out there and happen upon this comment kind mumsnetter, please message me, I'd love to repay your kindness.

I've struggled for years with my mums behaviour and posted on mumsnet about it just once after a horrible incident. Several posters suggested she might be BPD and pointed me in the direction of a reddit forum for support. The glass shattering moment it all fell into place. That advice and support helped so much.

Mumsnet helped me see that my ex husband was seriously and scarily abusive. Of course to the world he was charming and successful. I'd become the frog in water that gradually heats up until it's boils and the frog dies without jumping out because it thinks it's normal. Im no wallflower either, some people are so manipulative Well mumsnet opened my eyes and led to me leaving him. I'm forever grateful, particularly for my children.

Having boundaries with a bully ex

MN has taught me more about domestic violence than my degree in social work.
Taught me a lot about relationships and how power is communicated.
Also a fuck ton of book recommendations, one book in particular changed my life - how to do everything and be happy by Peter Jones.

Mumsnet helped me with... (in chronological order):

Pregnancy worries
Baby equipment tips
Horrific postpartum depression and birth trauma
Breastfeeding tips
Toddler activity ideas
How to get my dd to cope with the sensory overwhelm of having her hair washed
Minor difficulties with my mum
Tips about the 4+

And throughout... lighthearted aibus and serious FWR commentary to read during the long nights of pregnancy insomnia and/or breastfeeding.

Thank you, mumsnet. Genuinely. Particularly about the postpartum depression

I was brought up in a traditional home where Mum stays at home.and the man is all important. I was set on that route as well. MN taught me differently - I am an equal in my marriage, even though at times it made sense for me to stay at home. My Mother regularly tells me she admires me for not following in her footsteps. I am also GC now as are my family and my Mother. I also have a much better understanding of the different lives people lead.

Gosh yes how true - I have the same degree

MN users called the last three general elections, brexit and the Scottish independence referendum results before the BBC did. The live threads were absolutely bloody brilliant. Real up all night stuff.

Also my son wouldn't exist if not for MN because I previously considered mothers to be boring and stupid. He's 13 now, so thanks for the enlightenment.

Similar story here

And I was so afraid to say to anyone in real life I was so mortified and confused
Used to think he was right/ maybe I am losing my mind 😞😞

One of my dds was diagnosed with asd thanks to reading about signs on the SEN threads that I hadn’t a clue about.

It helped me keep in touch with uk during a period of living abroad and helped me feel less lonely.

I made rl friends through the site when I got back.

I learned some brilliant household tips before there were sites like Instagram to share things on.

I had some lovely support when I was worried about having a scan.

And just this week I made a ridiculously easy soup, after MN cooks put me on the right track & I realised I already had a hand blender!

I've also learned about logging in to industrial tribunals, which has been an eye-opener/entertaining/gobsmacking.

I really love it when a poster makes me laugh or crystallises something in words so perfectly.

My very first thread was about a painful situation that had just happened with my natural father and posters gave wonderfully kind and supportive replies, which really helped me to process the emotional blow.

Since then, so much else. Mumsnet encompasses an extremely wide arc.

I truly value how many wise, generous, eloquent, funny people come here to nestle in the bosom of the viper.

Mumsnet in my opinion is a village.

I know I sound a bit wanky but you know what, I was in a fucking shocking relationship in my younger days and I am happy to say I did figure it out, but had I had MN it wouldn't have got to 2 weeks, let alone 2 years.

It's lovely reading things that have helped. I have another name which I've used for a post and the support I was given was invaluable. Those women I wish I could repay. One poster in particular gave me hours of her time and thoughts to help me see how bad of a situation I actually was in. I know she NC regularly but I think of her regularly and hope she knows how much her words and time truly changed my life.

Mumsnet has taught me two very important things: 1) how to be a good MIL and 2) that I was GC.

I knew what quinsy was so when my daughter phoned me at 4am and told me her symptoms I knew it was an emergency and she needed to get to A&E as soon as possible as her throat was closing up (111 didn't identify it).