Memorial plaque where someone isn't buried??

[Firefly993]

My sister died 20 years ago. I now live in a different country as do my parents.
I obviously can't visit the cemetery often but I was thinking of buying a small plaque with her name on it and putting it on a family members grave near to where we now live. We are the only family, so no one to consult.
I haven't mentioned this to my parents and I'm just wondering is this a strange thing for me to suggest?
I think it would be nice to have somewhere to visit on birthdays, anniversaries etc.

When I am dead my loved ones can write my name wherever they like if it brings them comfort. Whether that's on a grave in country I've never been, on a bench by my favourite beach, or on the back of a bus.

@Firefly993 no it's not strange. If it's allowed and it gives your Mum some comfort then I think it's a very nice idea.

I was at Kew Gardens today and it was lovely to see all the benches with their memorial plaques - perhaps a special garden in the country where you live ?

@Namechangedasouting987

In my Diocese, they are allowed as long as it is made clear that the remains are elsewhere

@NameChangingHabit would it just say something like name, date, buried in Liverpool?

My baby son died and I just have one in my garden. Ashes are in an urn at home.

Due to a family dispute my grandfather is listed on two headstones and we aren't sure where he is buried

@Firefly993

The approval of the actual wording is left to the ministers, but it must be factual. Personally, I think 'buried in the churchyard of St xxxx's Liverpool' sounds less harsh than 'buried in Liverpool'.

We had a memorial plaque made in memory of our eldest daughter and placed it next to her uncle's on his grave. This was in a cemetery though which I think have different rules to churches.
Although our daughter isn't actually there (she died before birth), it gives me, her DD and her GF a feeling of comfort to place flowers for her and to see her name and the verse we wrote for her.
We also planted rose trees in our garden.
If it brings you comfort and doesn't upset anyone else, then do it - I was worried others would think we were stupid or just wouldn't understand, but once we did it, the comfort we feel each week when we visit her uncle, makes it worth it to us

@NameChangingHabit that does sound less harsh, I think I will use that.
@AddictedToBooks I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds like the perfect place to remember your daughter and similar to what I think I will do.

I hope it brings you some comfort @Firefly993

Sorry for your loss @AddictedToBooks.

I'm in the process of agreeing the wording with my aunt for a memorial plaque in the cemetery close to her (in a Southern hemisphere country) for my mum and dad. My dad's mother is buried there and his father and brother already have memorial plaques there (buried elsewhere). There's a birdbath (which my aunt had made) already there.

We scattered a small amount of their ashes there when dh and I visited last year. My dad had died suddenly a month before (and my my mum 10 years before) and my aunt couldn't make it to the funeral as she can't fly, so it means a lot to her.

This is a very small country graveyard (and my granny (dad's mother) helped make the graveyard beautiful by planting some of the trees that are now mature avenues) so I don't know if that makes a difference.

You're allowed this in Scotland. In fact the local authority suggested it to me, they're responsible for cemeteries even at churches.

I'm in the process of arranging something similar for my mum. She was cremated and I am organising a new plaque for her on the family grave in a churchyard in the next town over. There's already a plaque there for my aunt and grandmother, who are both buried in London, whereas I'm in the far south west.

We tried to arrange a memorial bench at a garden we all enjoyed visiting together, but they had a long waiting list.