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Keep feeling that I should have done more

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QuestionableMouse · 21/02/2024 23:45

I work in a private house that is owned by an older lady (she's nearly 80 - yes her age is relevant!). I'm a housekeeper not a carer so have no medical training.

Last week she was put on some new medication and had multiple falls. She had one on last Thur in the middle of the night and an ambulance was called. They checked her over and found she was okay to stay at home. This was at about 4am.

I went in on Friday morning at 9am and she was in bed, laying on a bare mattress because she'd had an accident and the carer had stripped the wet stuff off but not replaced it.

She was unable to get up and in a lot of pain but refused an ambulance so I called her GP out. GP came, checked her over and said he didn't think she'd broken anything but booked her in for an xray. She refused to go on the Friday because she didn't feel well enough.

I had to leave at 4pm for an appointment and was really worried about leaving her on her own even though her family was calling round a bit later on.

She was taken into hospital over the weekend (she couldn't get out of bed and her family called an ambulance) where they found she's broken her back and hip.

I know realistically there wasn't much else I could have done but I feel so guilty - I knew on Friday morning that something was wrong. Maybe I should have just called an ambulance on the morning. It might have saved her a lot of pain over the weekend.

Sorry not sure what the point of this post is, just needed to get it out because it's been really bothering me. 🙁

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junebirthdaygirl · 22/02/2024 00:27

Sounds like a lot of medical people saw her and missed out on her injuries so it's not your fault. Older people can be difficult to call as they don't want to go to hospital and its not easy to persuade them. You did your best.
But l would be concerned about a carer not replacing the sheet on her bed...that's neglect and l hope her family know.

QuestionableMouse · 22/02/2024 00:31

Yeah I was pretty shocked by the lack of bedding to be honest and told her family straight away! I managed to get a sheet under her so I don't understand why the carer left her like that!

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Fucketyfecketyfoo · 22/02/2024 01:08

You did what you could. I’d probably phoned family and indicated they should come immediately. Fucking shocked at ‘carer’. No excuse at all for that. Again report to family so they can complain.

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QuestionableMouse · 22/02/2024 18:20

Oh yep, I sent a message to her son while I was on the phone to her GP.

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