DD 17 ( ASD ) having issues with ‘friend’ deliberately excluding her from group of 3 friends overwhelming

[Munichfam5]

My DD started college in September and has had some ups and downs with the group of girls on her course - DD can sometimes find group friendships and girls big group chats confusing and overwhelming. It took a bit of settling in and resulted with her leaving the group chat - which was the best thing for her to do

DD is friends with one girl on her course who is lovely , but another girl has now joined them and is often leaving DD out in conversations and talks about trips that she and the other friend are going on , but tells DD she’s not included.

DD’s friend , the lovely one has also noticed this and said it’s not right

I have said to DD to just ignore the other girls behaviour - that she’s immature, but i’m not sure what else to advise ?

Any advice appreciated ? TIA

I have had this over the years with my DD. It’s sad that people just can’t get on. I think this girl is insecure, and worried that she will be left out. I don’t know what the answer is, but at this age I would let her try and deal with it herself.

Agree with above poster. My DSD is going through something similar at the moment ☹️

Don't think there a lot you can do - I remember at a similar age experiencing this and realising I was better being more independent and nurturing other friendships including male ones which helped a lot.

Thanks for your comments - as DD is 17 - i know it’s for her to deal with - I just wish there was some amazing advice i could give her when this kind of thing happens ,,, which it does and will …

Like you say- learning to be independent is a good start 👍