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Can I send a Tesco delivery to someone?

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 19:50

Basically just as it says. Can I send a Tesco delivery to someone without them knowing it's come from me?

Long story short, a friend of a friend has had a horrendous year. Gave up work around 3 years ago to care for her husband. What she had to cope with would have broken most people and he sadly died a few days before Christmas. She has no kids, only family live abroad, her dog is now ill and she's struggling

I spoke to my friend earlier (who is a lot closer to this person than I am) and she had been on the phone in tears asking for a loan of money to get her by. She is having issues accessing her husbands pension, hers doesn't pay a lot, the medication the dog needs is costing a lot and she had run out of food. My friend wasn't gossiping. She is genuinely heartbroken for her and is trying her best to help.

I want to do something to help her. I know her address and was thinking of sending her a Tesco shop to get her though a few weeks

She is a very proud woman and was extremely embarrassed at having to ask my friend for a loan which is why I don't want her to know this has come from me. I don't plan on telling anyone at all

Can't do a drop and run at the door as she has a ring door bell and would see me

If this is possible? And ideas of do's/dont's on what to include?

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Icantbedoingwithit · 20/02/2024 19:51

I think this is a beautiful idea.

MamaMode · 20/02/2024 19:53

This is a very kind idea. I believe you can change the address in the order, not sure about the name though. I have sent shopping to my mums house a few times (but via Sainsbury's)

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 19:54

Sorry should have added that I thought of getting a voucher from a supermarket and sending it from an anonymous email address but she doesn't drive and does most of her food shopping in bits and pieces daily from the local co-op so I don't think that option would work

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headcheffer · 20/02/2024 19:55

Surely she will refuse it at the door as she didn't order it? Lovely idea though.

hohohowheniscmascoming · 20/02/2024 19:57

Send her a co op gift card

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 19:57

headcheffer · 20/02/2024 19:55

Surely she will refuse it at the door as she didn't order it? Lovely idea though.

This is what I'm worrying about 🤔 I've sent shopping to a different address before but I don't know if there was a way to add a note or something to the delivery so she knows that it's for her. I can't find anything about it on google

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Mumof2gb · 20/02/2024 19:57

Lovely idea.
I think you would need to let her know it’s coming otherwise she might reject the order at the door thinking it’s in error?
I don’t think there is a note section on Tesco. Unless you called their customer services to add one?

Andthereyougo · 20/02/2024 19:58

Yes, it’s easy to do but she’d have to be in to receive the order.
I suppose if you changed the phone number to hers it would alert her when it as being delivered.

MargaretThursday · 20/02/2024 19:58

You will need to tell her, even if it's an anoymous note through the door, or you have the risk of her refusing. If Tescos turned up with an order for me I'd assume it was a mistake and refuse it.

LilBus · 20/02/2024 19:58

If this happened to me I would decline it and say I haven’t ordered so not sure how that would work as nice as it is?

cate16 · 20/02/2024 20:00

You can, but you need to make sure they will be in. Can you ask a mutual friend to help, ensure she's in and will accept it?

I usually send a food/ treat shop instead of straight forward flowers nowadays - as most online supermarkets also do flowers too

crazycatladie · 20/02/2024 20:02

Could you post some money in an envelope through her door?

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 20:02

A note through the door is a good idea. She only lives round the corner and I see her walking the dog most nights. Could wait until she passes and run round with it in stealth mode 🤣

I could also have the bags of shopping ready actually and run round with that while she's out with the dog. So it's there for her when she comes back

Right. Now that's sorted any ideas on what to include?

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Woodyandbuzz1 · 20/02/2024 20:05

They do have a space for delivery instructions if you wanted to just order a shop instead

Janelle7 · 20/02/2024 20:06

This is a lovely thing to do. As an alternative, you could put some money on a tesco gift card and drop it through the door with a note and a receipt to show how much was on there x

we had someone at work who was going through a similar hard time and i was instructed to put £500 on two gift cards (£250 each as i think thats the max) and they were given to her anonymously from the company

Andthereyougo · 20/02/2024 20:06

I think a gift card might be better than leaving bags of food on her doorstep.
Google tells me there are Co-Op gift cards and they also accept these https://www.one4all.com/gift-cards-online.html?amount=20&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIyfSk4du6hAMV0ZxQBh1RowfkEAQYASABEgLrM_D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

an anonymous gift card through the door is easier all round.

ebott · 20/02/2024 20:08

Co op voucher. Just eat voucher. Cake/ brownies delivery.

CopperLion · 20/02/2024 20:08

You’re very kind OP. Obviously budget to what you can afford, but I’d be going for decent quality in all the staples - ie bread, butter, milk, eggs, fruit and veg, some decent ready meals or other dinner options.

If you are a good cook and live close by, you could also pop over with some extra lasagne or similar that you have ‘accidentally’ made?

Summerscoming23 · 20/02/2024 20:08

Could you drop a few nice things to the door in a gift bag type bag so she knows it's a git of sorts and in it include the voucher for the co-op. So she'll have some treats and a voucher for money online the shop near her house ?

CantFindTheBeat · 20/02/2024 20:09

You're a kind woman, OP.

If she's very proud, you may be better off giving a donation to her for her dog's medication, and a contribution to her dogs food.

People are often reluctant to take things for themselves but can justify it for their pets.

girlyjim · 20/02/2024 20:10

If you sent her a gift card in the post, I think she could then spend it online and do her own shop. Then you know she'll get exactly what she wants.

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 20:13

Thank you so much for all the ideas

Definitely given me some ideas. I am notorious for making enough pasta to feed the street (why is pasta so hard to judge!) it's a running joke. so the "spare" food would definitely be believable

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mitogoshi · 20/02/2024 20:13

Yes you can but I think you need to tell her to expect it, she needs to be in. Lots of long life staples

Pineapplewaves · 20/02/2024 20:13

Could you post a Tesco gift card through her door so she can do her own shop. She can use it to shop online and get it delivered to her house.

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03cg73 · 20/02/2024 20:14

Also just realised that waiting till she's walking the dog is a no go as the ring doorbell would still see me 😂

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