9 weeks pregnant and can’t cope any suggestions

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9 weeks pregnant and hating it. I can’t get comfy and sleep at night I’m constantly exhausted having daily naps. I’ve moved the past couple of weeks from sofa to bed. The nausea is awful and medication isn’t helping. I think it’s flared up my fibromyalgia or endometriosis so I’m in pain my legs are achy and restless. My husband is doing everything for us it’s frustrating I can’t help. I’m getting very down about it. I want to be able to eat normally not feel so run down.

First trimester is awful. I can't tell you if/when it will get better but in my experience things do improve at 9-10 weeks. I just remember being unconscious on the sofa after work and kneeling retching in the bathroom for much of it.

I cobbled our garden path from scratch at 6 months so something definitely changed.

Thank you I do hope it improves currently feeling awful my day just consisted of surviving x

I'm afraid sometimes pregnancy is like that and it's shit! Try and readjust your mindset to your new normal. It really is all about taking it easy and letting DH take care of you. Once it's over you'll have your lovely baby to snuggle 💕

Oh and try a pregnancy pillow, they really help x

I feel you. I'm 15 weeks and felt utterly horrendous from 6 weeks on the dot. I've only just started to feel slightly better in the past week - still having some vomiting but not feeling quite as nauseous in between and am able to fancy more foods. Hang in there because it does pass.

You're 1/4 of the way through already!
early pregnancy is awful. It does generally get better after 12 weeks.

I don't want to freak you out...but....

With my first pregnancy, I had morning sickness. Thought that was pretty awful at the time.

With my second pregnancy, it was so much more than morning sickness. At 8 weeks, I genuinely staggered into our family doctors office, crying, and declared "Martin, I think I'm dying, I'm really worried that I'm gravely ill." He took vitals/bloods etc and there was nothing wrong with me, he asked if I had considered that it could be multiples. DTwins were picked up on the 12 week scan shortly after.

Just something to consider.

The 9th week was, in my experience, the absolute hardest week in terms of tiredness, aching, sickness and generally feel absolutely dire. For most women, it begins to get better after this week - I hope you are one of those.

In the meantime, all you can do is try to get some calories into you, even if it's just sips of lemonade/lucozade, and keep resting, with a gradual increase in movement (no trying to leap up and do everything the instant you don't feel like immediately throwing up, take it slowly), as being low on energy will mean you're likely to feel sicker, dizzier and weaker at first.

Yes I found weeks 8 and 9 were peak awful. And I didn't find the medication helped much (cyclizine??) Barely moved from the couch except to puke or go to bed, lost weight, slept 10-12 hours a day, more if I could. By week 16 I was a lot better. Baby is snoozing next to me, and all those grim weeks are a distant memory. Hang in there!

Oh definitely week 9 was peak misery! Hang in there.

Your body is building a whole new organ AND a baby. Be kind to yourself and rest as much as you can. I ate nothing but ice lollies for the first 12 weeks and she came out normal, it gets better 😊

Iron supplements can help with restless legs?

Oh I understand your struggle very well. I had hyperemesis with both my pregnancies. I found that seabands helped take the edge off. No medication worked for me but you could always go to the doctor and ask for something stronger. Get a magnesium spray for the restless legs (it's pregnancy safe). Don't worry about what you eat, as long as you eat something. Suck on ice chips if you can't stomach water. I've also heard that the juice from a fruit cocktail tin helps with nausea and vomiting. Hang in there. It will get better soon. Just think about those special baby snuggles!

Pregnancy, specifically the first trimester, is awful, my benchmark in life is now "well it's not as bad as being pregnant"

9 weeks is statistically the worst peak for first trimester symptoms (See Emily Oster books) so chances are it won't get any worse and will gradually get better.

Seconding @WhosBob suggestion that you try seabands. They won't cure it, but I also found they took the edge off it a bit.

Go back to teh doctor's and ask for different meds. There are lots available.

I had 24/7 morning sickness with my first - before meds were really around 20+ years ago. I was off work for 3 months. No 'glowing' for me.

Hope you feel better soon.

It really sucks. I've never felt exhaustion like it - like it was in my bones. Just do the bare minimum every day. Drag yourself out of bed, brush teeth, go to work (I used to have to get off the bus to be sick, I'm sure everyone thought I was hungover), come home and just go straight to bed.

Well done to your husband - mine was the same and had to do everything for me. I just couldn't function.

It is what it is, but you will get through it because women are amazing.

Week 9 is the worst it gets. I've felt great since the 11 week mark. Just sleep as much as you can, it'll pass.

Week 9 definitely wasn't the worst for me, I'm 15 weeks and still feel like shit I'm afraid.

My 1st trimeater was awful with a toddler. Couldn't rest when I needed it and lofe goes on. It was struggles vill for a while. But now over 18weeks and feeling much better.
Sleep at night it hard but just purchased the Dream Belt and a soft body pillow/nursing pillow.