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Does anyone know what a domestic abuse awareness course entails? Can I get your opinion on it being an option here?

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SausageChopsBellyFlops · 19/02/2024 19:59

Very long story short my dd went through a horrendous relationship recently, it's been so difficult to watch and try to guide her through, eventually her ex got charged with domestic abuse, amoung other things.

The police called and asked my thoughts about keeping the charges on file, having him complete a DA course to a certain standard over the course of a year. If he fails to attend or pass the course the charges will be pursued.

My absolute main concern is my dd, so this would save her going through a court case, and also potential future victims, so if he is aware and passes this course then another girl won't suffer this awful situation.

I asked, and they said it would have a lot of victim impact stuff in it, and that it was through SS or that they are involved somehow anyway there was a lot to take in on the call.

I'm going tomorrow to sign a couple of things and will discuss it then, but meantime what do you think, I'm too close to see this clearly.

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Catsmere · 20/02/2024 08:50

Coffeesnob11 · 19/02/2024 21:51

Sorry but most of these courses aren't worth the paper they are written on. Most abusers are great liars and will say anything to pass i actually believe in some cases it helps them be better abusers. I have never heard of anyone failing a course, carcass don't measure post course reoffending.

That's exactly what I've always heard. It just teaches them how to game the system even better and get away with more abuse. It doesn't change their attitudes.

SausageChopsBellyFlops · 20/02/2024 09:24

Catsmere · 20/02/2024 08:50

That's exactly what I've always heard. It just teaches them how to game the system even better and get away with more abuse. It doesn't change their attitudes.

Oh god, that's the last thing I want.

This course comes alongside some SS involvement as well, although presumably limited due to his age.

I don't think a fine would make things better either, but these are basically my 2 options here.

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