Dating (or not) what am I doing wrong?

[Lightnose]

I have a wide circle of friends/aquaintances and an active social life. I'm often out with men, sometimes as a group, sometimes 121 (also often out with women or a mixed group).

The men seem to like me, they keep inviting me along, they often compliment my appearance (in a friendly way, the same way a female friend might on a night out), but no one ever seems to even consider the possibility that I could be more than a friend.

I like my life and don't have a special interest in anyone currently, but I do sometimes wonder why I get friendzoned so easily? It would be nice to be asked occasionally! When i asl, they assume immean as mates (whcih tbf I often do).

Sometimes, I start to wonder about possibilities with a man in the circle, but it quickly becomes apparent that he's happy to spend time as friends, but has no other interest.

Then I keep reading on here that men are only ever friends with women they want more from 😆

I really don't mean for this to sound rude, but I wonder if the men in the group consider you as 'one of the lads'. If that is the case then it would probably remain as only friendship relationships rather than anything further.
What I mean by 'one of the lads' is having made humour, being a bit rough around the edges, etc... kind of hard to explain it. Maybe someone else can explain it better

Male humour*

I don't think I have male humour or am rough around the edges, I'm a strong, intelligent feminist and quite often put them in their place when the "banter" becomes a bit much, but I do think they see me as one of the lads.

@Lightnose would you be close enough to one of the men in the group that you could potentially ask? Or bring it up in conversation but not make it obvious that you're asking about yourself?

I'm a strong, intelligent feminist and quite often put them in their place when the "banter" becomes a bit much

You "quite often" putting a man in his place isn't exactly going to turn him on. It's like you're their mum or sister. If these men are so unsavory, I don't see why you'd care about dating them anyway.

🤣 It's not that they're unsavoury, it's just that they need reminding once in a while, especially when together in a group. I've worked predominantly with men for 35 years, if you think there are many who don't, you're kidding yourself. Even the really good decent, love their family men, when they've had a few drinks with their mates, I'm afraid.