What can I buy my mum for Mother’s Day? (This will be tricky, is anyone up to the challenge??)

[Jessforless]

My mum is amazing. She is a full time carer for my Nan and has a tough time of it. She has been incredible to me and my siblings and I want to get her something great because it’s been a particularly rough time lately.

My siblings are happy to go in on something, because, she is hard to buy for! I think the budget could be anything from £50 - £250 depending on what it was split between us.

• she doesn’t like any kind of food or drink gifts, my sister in law has bought her things like this for birthdays and Christmas and she has never used them, without fail. Always regifted to my Nan.
• Ive bought her theatre tickets / experience tickets before - she has asked if we can not do this again. With the exception of strictly come dancing! Which annoyingly, is now over as a tour.
• I got her a flower subscription before, she said no more as it’s too much money.
• no ornaments, wall art, word art, personalised anything as she is a minimalist and doesn’t like ‘stuff’
• no books as she has a kindle (and I upgraded it at Christmas)
• no boxsets because obviously, streaming services.
• No clothes because we’ve all tried this and she is very self conscious and won’t wear them
• I thought I had cracked it and bought her courses before! Nope. She didn’t want to learn French or dog trick training.
• Too much perfume
• too many handbags
• always wears the same makeup and so is plentiful, because, all the above!
• got her wellibobs she loved for dog walking! So can’t get those again.

this sounds like she is ungrateful, she isn’t. She would just as soon have nothing and would still have a fab day and tell us she was glad we saved our money. But I Really want to get her something good.

So…. Can anyone crack this code?? I would be very very grateful ❤️

A Kindle book gift card?

I got my mum a lovely birthstone bracelet a few years ago with birthstones of me and my daughters. What about something like that with yours and your siblings' BS?

Take her out for a fancy lunch or dinner with all her kids etc present.

Kindle voucher for books.

Garden centre vouchers?

Does your mum like any musicians?? Cauld go to concert

Sponser a guide dog or a donkey/elephant/any animal

Where does she get her hair done? What about a voucher for a number of blow-dries or something like that? I have a relative who is equally hard to buy for and it's the one thing I've landed on that I am sure she'll use every year and won't give away to someone else! (Kindest, most generous woman ever!!)

Is she interested in craft of any sort?

Give her a memory back.

you and your siblings go round, have dinner, play board games.

curl up together and watch a film with popcorn etc.

basically all the things she did when you were little that were a bit fun or magical - recreate that for her

I came on to say the same as @WhatInTheFuckery but was thinking of a necklace

https://honeywillow.com/products/family-birthstone-halo-necklace-silver-birthstones-for-loved-ones

any way you could pay for a carer to come and do her role with your grandmother so she has a day or 2 off? Or is that something you or one of your siblings could do if your nan isn’t amenable to that? (I don’t know how easy or feasible it is to find respite carer, but it would be nice to give her some time off!)

Does she have a good coat/shoes for dog walking? Vouchers for a dog play field?

only a small thing but I have made much use out of a head torch when out walking lately

any other hobbies like jigsaw/knitting/cross stitch / crochet/ puzzle books?

A weekend away

Takethat are doing a concert in Nottingham in may

This is a lovely idea. I'd love it if my kids recreated some of their favourite childhood memories with me.

I would take her out for dinner or lunch with all your sisters. She’ll just love spending time with you. It doesn’t have to be fancy, especially if it makes her uncomfortable. Just the food she likes in a relaxed environment.

Other dog walking accessories? A beanie with a light on the front? Turtle doves cashmere wrist warmers are nice for dog walks (they’re fingerless…for picking up poos!).

Would she like a spa day or afternoon tea rather than a theatre trip?

A leather case for the upgraded kindle?

A photo book or digital photo frame?

Mobile car valet on her driveway, so she can enjoy driving a sparklingly clean car for zero effort?

If she likes SCD, would she enjoy any of the SCD professionals shows? There are usually plenty of them on tour, and having seen a few they are amazing.

You say no experience tickets but would annual membership of an organisation like the National Trust/English Heritage/ RHS be of interest?

I wasn’t expecting any replies honestly but these are amazing ideas! Thank you so much… going to share them on my sibling group.

Really grateful!

I'd hate it if my kids spent £250 on Mothers Day. Token presents suffice so I ask my kids to just buy some bunches of daffs, but get a nice card.

How about a rose to plant or pot in the garden. If you can find one with her name, or a Mothers Day rose, then extra bonus points.

Pay for someone to come spend a couple of days tidying her garden (weeding/pruning/trimming etc) in the summer.

Find a few childhood photos and try to replicate them today with your siblings. If you can find similar clothes/background/accessories then they're even better.

Digital photo frame so she can have her photos on display without tons of clutter.

I'm in my 70s and lucky enough to have a pension that allows me to buy whatever I need and a lot of what I want.

For mothers day this year I've asked for a particular tee shirt that says "it's so odd being the same age as old people" from a company called RedMolatov.

It's not expensive, but the message makes me 😃.

Could you buy presents for her dog? Like a bed, coat or blanket.

One of those fancy photo frames that the family can send pictures to? I know you said no 'things' but this is a little different