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Feeling down. Please send me good wishes/vibes/prayers

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Fathomless · 19/02/2024 19:24

I have had a couple of bad relationships which have impacted my life and mental health hugely. The last one was very abusive and I managed to end it after many difficult years. I have been single for a few years now and trying to be happy on my own. I am scared to get into another relationship, perhaps one day. I do want to have someone special in my life.

I have a teen dc. I don't have many friends or family nearby. Life is very lonely, and I don't know how to turn things around. I am unhappy and get quite upset when I see people having a lovely time with their partners and families. I don't have social media for this reason, because I don't want to know, but when colleagues or friends speak about their plans, it does get me down. I don't wish anyone ill, but I can't help feeling bitter and resentful about how my life has turned out. I blame myself for my choices, and I'm envious of others' happiness. Dc is more independent now so doesn't spend a lot of time with me, which is perfectly normal I accept, although we have a lovely time when we do make plans and do things together.

I know I'm rambling. I'm just quite unhappy and feel trapped and stuck in my life. I'm asking you lovely lot to send me good wishes, prayers, thoughts, positive vibes. Anything.

Wish me love, friends, community, companionship, happiness, joy, laughter, energy, wellbeing and anything else you can think of. Thank you.

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Fathomless · 19/02/2024 21:31

Hopeful bump.

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Andthereyougo · 19/02/2024 21:40

I’m channelling all the good wishes for you that I can.
I don’t have any answers, sorry, but wish you all the best. 💐

howdisappointingwasthat · 19/02/2024 21:48

Oh hello lovely
Sorry you're feeling this way
I am sending love and best wishes across the internet to you
✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫 ✨💫

howdisappointingwasthat · 19/02/2024 21:56

Whereabouts in the country are you? Can you find a MN meet up?
Well done for your bravery

I am reading brene brown at the moment: she writes a lot about courage and how it's not heroic, it's speaking from the heart

Don't forget everyone you meet is fighting their own battles, even the ones who have someone , who have busy plans and Iives full of hobbies and holidays

I know how easy it is for me to say this... in fact this post has just inspired me to start my own gratitude journal as I am feeling a bit fed up myself.
Baby steps. It has to be

RunningThroughMyHead · 19/02/2024 22:04

Oh bless you. I hope things turn around for you soon. It won't be like this forever, I promise.

MaBellOnDaLoose · 19/02/2024 22:08

I wish you the tools to continue to construct a fulfilled, joyful life

Caswallonthefox · 19/02/2024 22:18

I send positive vibes.
I've been on my own for 15 years.
Tried marriage twice and both were abusive, but not physical.
I decided that being on my own was less hassle, after 2 other short relationships turned out to be shit too.
Life for me isn't exciting or perfect but I'm not exactly a social butterfly either.
I hope you achieve goals that are wonderful for you.

LadyLolaRuben · 19/02/2024 22:33

Wishing you strength and new beginnings.

Keep going OP, keep going. I know its tiring.

Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Imagine being the best version of yourself. What does she do? How does she behave? And turn up as her every damn day x

Purplehue13 · 19/02/2024 23:07

Sending you good vibes op. Wishing you a happy and healthy future.

Fathomless · 20/02/2024 08:59

Thanks for commenting. I appreciate all responses, and wish you all well too. I will come back to answer some questions that have made me think a bit

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 21:59

howdisappointingwasthat · 19/02/2024 21:56

Whereabouts in the country are you? Can you find a MN meet up?
Well done for your bravery

I am reading brene brown at the moment: she writes a lot about courage and how it's not heroic, it's speaking from the heart

Don't forget everyone you meet is fighting their own battles, even the ones who have someone , who have busy plans and Iives full of hobbies and holidays

I know how easy it is for me to say this... in fact this post has just inspired me to start my own gratitude journal as I am feeling a bit fed up myself.
Baby steps. It has to be

I like the idea of a gratitude journal and also the mn group. are they annual ones?

Brene brown, will put on to read list. Thanks

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 22:00

RunningThroughMyHead · 19/02/2024 22:04

Oh bless you. I hope things turn around for you soon. It won't be like this forever, I promise.

I hope so. I feel embarrassed of how lonely I am. it's the final taboo I think. There's shame attached to admitting you're lonely perhaps. Thank you

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 22:01

MaBellOnDaLoose · 19/02/2024 22:08

I wish you the tools to continue to construct a fulfilled, joyful life

Those would be super useful! Thank you

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 22:02

Caswallonthefox · 19/02/2024 22:18

I send positive vibes.
I've been on my own for 15 years.
Tried marriage twice and both were abusive, but not physical.
I decided that being on my own was less hassle, after 2 other short relationships turned out to be shit too.
Life for me isn't exciting or perfect but I'm not exactly a social butterfly either.
I hope you achieve goals that are wonderful for you.

@Caswallonthefox do you date at all? pr is that off the table?

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 22:04

LadyLolaRuben · 19/02/2024 22:33

Wishing you strength and new beginnings.

Keep going OP, keep going. I know its tiring.

Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.

Imagine being the best version of yourself. What does she do? How does she behave? And turn up as her every damn day x

Love that you quoted the insanity definition. It feels relevant. I will journal re my most fabulous self and see what I come up with!

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Caswallonthefox · 20/02/2024 22:28

No, I don't date.
I can't be arsed with it all.
Plus my mental health is not good.
I suppose, what it boils down to is, whether you are confident/extrovert enough to be able to meet new people.
I however, would rather sit indoors and knit because people scare me.

mrswhiplington · 20/02/2024 23:13

Wishing you everything you wish for yourself.🧞‍♀️

howdisappointingwasthat · 20/02/2024 23:15

Have a look and see which groups are near you? There will be some, I am sure. Or on Facebook. Whereabouts in the country are you! It’s about being brace
i haven’t bought a journal. I just opened a new notebook and started

done is better than perfect

Fathomless · 20/02/2024 23:34

howdisappointingwasthat · 20/02/2024 23:15

Have a look and see which groups are near you? There will be some, I am sure. Or on Facebook. Whereabouts in the country are you! It’s about being brace
i haven’t bought a journal. I just opened a new notebook and started

done is better than perfect

I'm in London@howdisappointingwasthat

Oh i have plenty of journals and lovely notebooks. will use one to do some actual journalling

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Fathomless · 20/02/2024 23:35

mrswhiplington · 20/02/2024 23:13

Wishing you everything you wish for yourself.🧞‍♀️

Many thanks @mrswhiplington

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