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What if, anything would you do about this?

11 replies

Lightnose · 19/02/2024 18:39

I run with a club. Running is my thing, I do it pretty much everyday and most of my social life is tied up with running and runners. I've done it for decades, it's got me through some tough times and given me some really good times and some good friends.

Currently I'm training for a long endurance race and there's a man at the club training for a similar event, so we're running together a lot. We've spent a lot of time together, both training and entering events, but I've never done anything else with him, it's just about the running.

He's recently separated from his wife after a very long marriage. This is one of the reasons he'sentered the event, to give himself something to distract himself. We get on as training partners, but he's never given me any reason to think he's interested in anything else from me and I'd be very wary of such a recently separated man, even if he did.

Anyway, photos from the events often find their way onto FB and show the two of us enjoying ourselves. I've started getting messages from both his wife and his son accusing me of being the reason for the break up.

We didn't even start training together until after the split, when he entered the long event to give himself a focus/distraction.

I don't need the drama, I do need a training partner, I haven't told him yet.

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Sirzy · 19/02/2024 18:42

I would block them both. You dont need to explain yourself to them.

TonTonMacoute · 19/02/2024 18:42

Ignore them, mention it to him in a FYI way.

icelollycraving · 19/02/2024 18:44

I’d screenshot the messages, then block them.

GreyCarpet · 19/02/2024 18:57

Yep, screenshot the messages; tell him in an FYI way; block hr and the son.

Not your circus; not your monkeys.

coxesorangepippin · 19/02/2024 18:58

Yip, not your problem

MarnieMarnie · 19/02/2024 19:38

I don't do drama of any kind or at any level so i would distance myself from this guy. It may not be his fault, but you have no idea what level of contact he has with his wife or what he's told her. Can you find a different running buddy? (And I know you shouldn't have to yada yada, but easy life and all that).

Lightnose · 19/02/2024 19:40

MarnieMarnie · 19/02/2024 19:38

I don't do drama of any kind or at any level so i would distance myself from this guy. It may not be his fault, but you have no idea what level of contact he has with his wife or what he's told her. Can you find a different running buddy? (And I know you shouldn't have to yada yada, but easy life and all that).

There's no one else of roughly the same ability doing the same sort of crazy miles ATM.

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MILTOBE · 19/02/2024 19:42

Just talk to him about it. Maybe he should say he doesn't want photos of himself on Facebook. In his position I'd be more concerned about his son rather than his ex, tbh. I wouldn't want my son thinking that of me.

Bubblybooboo · 19/02/2024 19:44

I’d reply stating that you are training partners, that you will be blocking them and referring any future communication to the police.

Then I’d crack on.

Lightnose · 19/02/2024 22:01

I don't know, I don't really feel inclined to reply at all, I'd prefer to pretend I haven't even seen them 🤣

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lljkk · 19/02/2024 22:08

I would want to document it in some way outside my life, like showing friends but possibly not to the running partner, because it feels like that's engaging too much with the nonsense. Then block the weirdos & carry on as before.

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