Birthday present-is this inspired or beyond cringe?

[CurlewKate]

Ds 23'd birthday coming up. I found some absolutely lovely lapis ear studs I know he would love, but he only has one hole. I'm thinking of giving one to him and one to his girlfriend-she has 3 holes. They are definitely her style too. And they are a soppy couple. They were quite expensive so not a "throw away" present.

Inspired or naff? You decide! I can save them for someone else if the consensus is against.

Would save them. It is the sort of present a lover would give to their other. (Not a mother to both)

I’d give them both to him and let him decide.

This. Then he can either have a spare or give it to gf

OK. Next question. Is there any way I can subtly suggest that I want him to give it to her?

I wouldn’t. Weird present from someone outside the couple - that kind of gift is between them. Just give your son a gift for him.

I think that's overstepping a bit into potential-MIL territory personally. Although it is a sweet concept to have a matching pair.

Massively overstepping

give one pair to him if you like, the rest is just weird. Why "gently suggest"? It's his choice what he buys his girlfriend.

I think as it's his birthday present, it would seem a bit strange to give part of it to his girlfriend. Let him decide what he wants to do with the other one.

@CurlewKate

No, the pair of earrings would be HIS present, it's entirely up to him whether he gives her one or keeps one as a spare.

You're being very weird about this.

Have you look at somewhere like Maria Tash? They sell a lot of individual earrings. I’m sure there are other places too, that just instantly springs to mind. The sentiment is lovely but I would think my MIL was utterly bonkers if she bought DH and I matching jewellery especially something as distinctive as lapis, sorry!

How about- I know you can only wear them one at a time but they were sold as a pair and i loved them. So I thought either you would have a spare or could give it to your OH to wear one as well if you wanted! They might think it a bit odd but if you make it a throwaway comment and don't mention it again, ask about it or be weirdly intense about the suggestion I can't see why anyone would be upset.

This is getting weird

I re-read the OP and do not see your interpretation.

("I'm thinking of giving one to him and one to his girlfriend-she has 3 holes.")

No, weird.

Give him the pair without any suggestions. Or buy a single.