Being around babies after MC… how do I manage it?

[RainbowHoping]

I work with them, and have loads in my family. Not helpful. We’re desperate to be parents and recently had a very early miscarriage of a much wanted first pregnancy. We conceived 2nd cycle, which was the first month of using SMEP and OPKs, so it felt too good to be true… and was ☹️

We’re trying again, hopefully be successful soon but how can I manage until then? It’s a horrid feeling because I can’t explain it to anyone and I don’t want them to think I’m jealous, I suppose I am… but not because I want their baby, but because I have such a strong maternal instinct and long to be a mummy!

Thank you if you got this far x

Just nudging this upwards!

Op it’s so tough. I had a loss too and my best friend was pregnant soon after. I think she found it just as to tough to tell as I found it to hear, but as you feel it wasn’t that I was jealous it was more sad for what I wouldn’t have if that makes sense! Those early months were so tough. We did get pregnant a few months later and all went well so I hope the same will happen for you. I still feel sad for the baby we lost even now, but it’s a lot easier as time passed. I think the best advice I can tell you is not to run from the sadness or grief. Acknowledge it and let yourself feel what you need to feel. It’s perfectly normal for it to be tough seeing babies after a loss.

Sorry for your loss. I'd tell myself it'll be me soon - you got pregnant extremely easily and you've no reason to think you won't be holding a baby yourself this time next year. Personally I think testing early just causes more heartache too because you then start thinking you've lost a baby when at 4 weeks pregnant you haven't, just the idea of it.