Inspired by the many threads on here of women who are having to take on mental load, work, kids etc. What is the division of labour in your household and how happy are you with it?
For context both me and DP work full time in busy demanding jobs. My kids aren’t his.
I do:
All meal planning
All grocery shopping (online)
All laundry, putting on, hanging up, folding, putting away my own, piling kids and DPs on their ends to put away
Change beds
Cook dinners about 5 times a week, cook weekend breakfasts
All kids mental load stuff, docs, dentists, orthodontists, activities, play dates, holiday camps, school uniform, haircuts, birthday parties, clothes shopping and needing etc etc etc
organize Christmas and birthday presents for anyone and everyone,
Unload dishwasher - usually roping in kids to help, most days
Social life planning
He does:
Bins - putting out, taking in, recycling, food waste, tip runs.
Cooks twice a week, following a Hello Fresh style recipe
Washes ups most evenings
Unloading dishwasher couple of times a week
When asked - without complaint - will taxi my children around
Anything involving getting stuff in and out of attic
Setting and cleaning up fire
Things that need ladders - bulb changing, smoke alarm testing etc
We outsource (all organized and coordinated by me):
Cleaning
Ironing
Gardening
Anything requiring a tradesman - neither of us can do anything remotely handy and hate DIY
Kids help with
Putting shopping away
dishwasher
laying and clearing tables
tidying their own rooms
putting own laundry away
Getting their own breakfasts, packed lunches
To be honest pretty happy with split of things, even though feels a bit traditional (men’s vs women’s work) and feel lucky we can buy in help. Bit of a control freak so would prefer to do stuff like laundry and shopping myself as would no doubt find fault and be pissed off if DP did it badly!