I have a married male friend, part of a social group really, rather than a close personal friend, but he (and the group) have been very good to me during a difficult time for me personally.
The group is mostly single people, but he comes along because he shares an interest and his wife isn't particularly sociable, prefers him to come alone, although she does join us once in a while. I like her a lot, they have have a lovely relationship actually, both have seperate interests but do a lot of things together too (no kids!).
Anyway, someone I used to count as a good friend has contacted him to say how inappropriate our friendship is. She hasn't contacted me since my change of circumstances. One of the reasons I've become involved in this group is that old friends have disappeared.
He didn't tell me for ages, but it slipped out after a drink, he's laughed it off, but I am furious. How dare she think that of me or him, how dare she potentially cause trouble for his marriage and how dare she try to sabotage my new friendship group, which frankly sometimes feels like the only good thing in my life ATM.
Fwiw, there is absolutely nothing inappropriate in our friendship. Other than an occasional lift to wherever we were meeting the others, I've never been anywhere on my own with him and we are very rarely in touch outside of the group chat. He's never been anything other than perfectly well behaved, even after a lot to drink.
I don't suppose there's anyhting I can do, the more I protest the worse it looks, so just venting really.