I don't know her very well really, but we had a falling out about 15 years ago when she was vile to a friend of mine and I tried to resolve things badly. At the time we were all part of the same membership organisation. She left and is now part of a seperate but socially connected club.
I've always been far more prone to falling out with people because of their actions against others. When it's me they've slighted I can usually let it go.
Anyway I don't think I was wrong but I accept I didn't handle it well at the time, but it was a really long time ago.
We're often at the same events and whilst we've never been friends, things have been perfectly cordial when we do bump jnto each other. She's one of those gushing, fantastic to see you people and she's like that with me too, I'm more polite greeting and a bit of small talk.
I've recently learned that she's still telling people she can't stand me. You'd never know that when she's talking to my face😆 I'm a bit hmm about the people who feel the need to tell me this, but honestly 15 years?! And so lovely to my face 😆
I don't care what she thinks, but it does bother me a bit that she might be influencing my wider circle.