Happy Valentines day, lol

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Yes, I do lol as it is over-hyped and often those that can least afford it will spend money they can't afford to spend

Don't forget, that marriage/love is not a one-day this, it's a lifelong thing. However, looking at the stats of marriages during the past 20 years or so, marriage is seen as a temporary contract for many.

You have birthdays, Christmas to buy the loving presents and every other days treat the other with respect and love

This Valentine's day, I get it for newer couples, maybe the case, but otherwise, it puts pressure on those on who have little disposable cash left over to spend money on stuff their OH may not like but too fear to hurt the others feelings

Yes, we've not done Valentine's days for over 35 years

FYI, I know it's your choice. However, I'm just posting what I read, hear and the number of upset people today, some of whom we will come across on various forums.

I tell you what's worse. Posters who think people with 'little disposable cash' left over are to thick to work out what they should or shouldn't spend that money on.

It's not all or nothing though is it? I am not well off and I'm married with 4 kids so it's not really in my interest to go all out for valentines. But we have still bought a card and small gift and we're going to have a nice meal at home. There's no rule that says if you choose to mark the day that you must spend hundreds.

Just because people celebrate Valentines day doesn't mean they don't also celebrate their relationship on other days and show their love in multiple ways. You don't have to be miserable gits for 364 days of the year in order to qualify to buy chocolates on Valentines day.

No can force anyone, I'm guessing you are aware of that. However, we are all entitled to air our opinions and I'm doing that based on what I have seen/heard.

I am standing by my OP, just trust me, there will be many upset people becuse their OH did this or not do that. Worse of all, many will spend money they can ill afford to spend on things like this

Married almost 25 years and always buy each other a card and small gift which we put thought into. We eat out just after Valentines Day to avoid crowds or more often, dh cooks a special meal for us at home. You don't have to go stupid to mark the day and we celebrate our relationship and show each other love on other days too.

Married 23 years. My card made me laugh and we're having a posh Waitrose meal deal for dinner (with 17yo DS invited too). What's not to like? It's a bit of fun.

@cheerysoul aww I like that!

This!!!!!

From op 'there will be many upset people'

In which case 'people' need to grow the fuck up then!! How ridiculous

Happy corporate love day op ❤️😁

I got nothing from my husband today. I got nothing because he's bedbound, can't see well enough to use a screen any more and is generally in very, very poor health.

I've gone more all out than I ever have in my life, soppy things like heart shaped balloons, red flowers, special versions of his favourite foods, nice meal tonight, anything I could think of that he might enjoy.

He's quite romantic and when he was well he always did more than I expected, lots of (overpriced) flowers and ridiculous amounts of cards, etc. I'm trying to pay it backwards if that makes sense and give him a day that will make him happy and know that however tough things are, I love and value him and I'd do that if all we could afford is a card and a bunch of daffs.

Valentine’s Day is in the middle of the month for us and just after Christmas and in recent years my youngest son’s January birthday.

We spend hardly any money as we don’t have it, but I have booked the day off work, made us some lovely food and pudding and spent time together.

As luck would have it I’m pretty ill but it’s the thought that counts!

I love Valentine’s Day; I love the aesthetic, I love having a nice bath and pretty romantic makeup, I love making nice food, and boning 😅

We have 3 young DC and time for ourselves as adults is vanishingly rare at the moment. A day celebrating romantic love is just what we need 😇

You don't have to spend any money though. A little romantic note left somewhere or making a card (we know a couple who re-use cards and add a different note each year to them), cooking a meal you know your OH enjoys doesn't have to be any more expensive than the normal cost of your tea.

We've spent the afternoon together, playing a game and chatting about our joint hobby. We rarely eat at the table, so I'm going to set it up soon, light some candles (which I'm lucky to have in).