Would this miff you? (Money related)

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In laws have always had a lot of money and sometimes they give small amounts away, but it's always very much emphasised it's to the "blood people" only.

FIL won some money and decided to distribute £20 notes to people... Handed them out to children and grandchildren in front of the married members, but married members are excluded.

At end of day I don't want the money, but it's more the way it's emphasised. Like me being married in the family almost 25 years and giving them grandchildren doesn't mean anything.

Just wondering if this was the normal because I am certain I would give everyone immediate the same small amount.

No, not really.
Mine and dh's finances are joint, so if he is given some money, it would end up being for 'us' anyway.

That said, it all sounds weird that he is handing over a £20note to an adult, like a pocket money treat.

Handing money to grandchildren I wouldn't have an issue with
Handing money to DC with a statement that its for blood only, nah. That's just rude.

Newname24 You've raised a good point actually, however one time husbands (their children) were handed a thousand pounds and us wives were given £10 as they thought it would be nice to be given our "own money" so it's very much seen as separate finances. But I see your point.

They sound pretty pathetic. The kind of people who would treat a step child differently.
My parents and in laws would never do this. They give DH and I the same amount as gifts if giving money or vouchers for birthday or Christmas. They also give all the children in the family the same amounts, whether blood related or not.

That sounds like my PiLs. It was all about blood. My husband died from a sudden heart attack, and the first thing FiL did was change his will so that the money meant for my H would go to our kids, as I wasn't blood. Even though we'd been married for 40 yrs and we gave them their only grandchildren, I still wasn't family.

He's almost 100 now and hes been in a home for years so there's hardly any money ieft anyway.

My ex-Pils were like that.

Not so much with the money, they would never have given anyone anything, money or otherwise, but you definitely knew who was blood and who wasn't.

Mean and stingy to do it in front of you. It's making a statement, your not family. Just wait till they are frail and infirm and need looking after.
See who's family then !!

Maybe it's a generation thing as well? I don't know.

Tillytoodles, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband and the changing of the will. x

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