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Do you live one day at a time? Or do you live in the future?

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Nocontact84 · 13/02/2024 10:11

I would like to be able to live one day at a time. I feel like that would solve so many problems. But instead I'm living in next year , 2 years time or in 6 months time and it's giving me anxiety.
I am filing for divorce and wanting to get a mortgage on my own etc but this won't be for another year or so. And frankly I'm terrified!
Day to day I don't have any problems, but the longer term stuff I have to do is bringing me down and making me depressed.
So do you live day to day? Or is your head constantly in the future? I honestly would be so much happier if I could just live one day at a time and worry about what I need to do for that day, rather than tormenting myself over what may or may not happen in several months or a year. This way of thinking is ruining my life and not letting me enjoy how things are today. Currently I don't have any problems, yet I am anticipating them constantly. It's like my default way of living and I hate it.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 13/02/2024 18:50

Nocontact84 · 13/02/2024 18:39

@Eyesopenwideawake it is exciting thinking of buying a house but I'm swamped with catastrophic thoughts about it, such as not being able to cope with mortgage repayments, extortion interest rates, the house getting repossessed. And this is all before I've even got a mortgage approved. It's definitely not normal how my mind thinks

Not normal but very common. Was your mum or dad a worrier?

AuntieMarys · 13/02/2024 19:05

I love planning things. We go away every month even it is just for a night. I love doing itinerary and finding unusual things to do....we are away next week in Liverpool, London in March, Lisbon in April. Nothing yet in May or June. A week away in this country July and 4 days in Donegal in October all booked.
We are probably moving house too!
We are mid 60s and although I like relaxing with a book and a glass of wine, I would rather be out doing stuff. The time may come when we can't. I go through 3 diaries a year 😅

C1N1C · 13/02/2024 19:10

I live for tomorrow. I'm good at planning, but I'm not going to waste the present.

Mysticguru · 13/02/2024 19:40

Everyone lives in the present moment. Their imagination however takes them into the unreal future.

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 13/02/2024 19:43

we all are a mix to be honest. No one has it exactly black or white in their heads. Try not to worry though....there is a bigger plan behind it all and all things happen for a reason and faith in the goodness of God is powerful

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Nocontact84 · 13/02/2024 19:44

@Eyesopenwideawake my dad wasn't a worrier and my mum would be a bit dramatic and bit of a hypochondriac but I don't think even she would worry and catastrophize the way I do. It's definitely got worse as I've got older , I'm in my 40s now

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Nocontact84 · 13/02/2024 19:45

@ILoveHugeAckman love those quotes, I am definitely anxious purely because I'm preoccupied with the future

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PinkEasterbunny · 13/02/2024 19:49

I’m definitely a planner, which is really handy but I worry a lot about the future. DH and I are in our 50s, what will the next 30+ years will bring in terms of health, care homes, who will die first etc etc. And the annoying thing is I can’t do a thing about it, no amount of planning can predict this.

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