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Is it normal to realise the ‘younger you’ was a bellend?

35 replies

lapde · 13/02/2024 09:40

Thinking back to what I was like aged 18-22, I was a complete twat. There’s no surprise I lost a lot of friends at that age.

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WinchSparkle80 · 13/02/2024 09:41

I totally agree, I was the same. Although I was possibly a twat a bit longer- maybe 24!

TheTempest · 13/02/2024 09:42

I was also a massive bellend. I think most people were, surely!

GingerFinger · 13/02/2024 09:42

Yep- cringe to remember how I was back then!

LimeViewer · 13/02/2024 09:43

But then surely all your friends were too so it's OK?!

mypafology · 13/02/2024 09:43

lapde · 13/02/2024 09:40

Thinking back to what I was like aged 18-22, I was a complete twat. There’s no surprise I lost a lot of friends at that age.

Yes. I ditched my female uni friends for a bloke in our final year. Coming up 30 years later they've all stayed a part of each others lives...holidays, bridesmaids, godparents. I'm just FB friends and I really regret what a twat I was

StopTheBusINeedAWeeWeeAWeeWeeBagOChips · 13/02/2024 09:44

I was an absolute idiot, I was absolutely everything I find irritating in youngsters these days, and more besides 🤣

I'm I'd 40s now and reckon when I hit mid 60s I'll look back and realise I'm a bellend now too.

HowDoYouMakeThem · 13/02/2024 09:44

Oh god yes. Huge twat. I'm like a different person now, thankfully!

SergeantZbornakFoodPolice · 13/02/2024 09:46

Another idiot here. Gave up pretty much everything for a horrible boyfriend, missed out on so much and neglected my family and friends to please him. Based on my old Facebook posts, I was really annoying too!

SharpLily · 13/02/2024 09:47

Yep, same. However I've since found out I have ADHD and realised my home life with my parents wasn't quite normal and made it much more challenging for me to be 'normal'! That's made it easier to forgive myself for being such a twat. I still cringe looking back to certain moments but can let it go now.

PrincessCharlette · 13/02/2024 09:54

No. can't say I was. Sorry.

notknowledgeable · 13/02/2024 09:55

Everyone grows and changes.

Funkyslippers · 13/02/2024 10:03

Yes I was a horrible twat wanting to be the centre of attention. Wasn't particularly nice to my friends. But I was going through a lot. I look at my DD (20) and am so proud of what a lovely caring person she is, particularly to her friends. But I don't know what she's like on nights out 😊

DrFoxtrot · 13/02/2024 10:06

I've realised I was a little selfish in expecting lifts from parents, but apart from that I was pretty good.

LakeTiticaca · 13/02/2024 10:26

Omg yes. I'm over 60 now but looking back to my 20s I just cringe at the stuff I did and said. Doing stupid things, not listening to good advice etc
I wish I could go back and correct my mistakes. But I guess that's how we learn to (hopefully) be a better person

Hereyoume · 13/02/2024 10:33

And now there is an entire generation of Twats growing up with a bad attitude and a smartphone.

They're still Twats, but now they are filming the Twattery and putting it on Antisocial Media for the whole world to see . . .

bottomsup12 · 13/02/2024 10:33

Yes we were all twats but I think shame makes you learn as an adult to become better? I still find myself being a twat nowadays but you know what, loads of people never look inwards like this and carry on as normal without worrying about themselves. Just don't worry about it so much

SomeCatFromJapan · 13/02/2024 10:37

Oh yes. Total utter bell-end and for an embarrassingly long time, as well. (I'm not entirely convinced I'm going to look back in twenty hears and not find current me a bit of a knob either).

Pootles34 · 13/02/2024 10:46

Yes total twat. I work in a Uni, some of our students are so hard working and switched on it makes me feel even worse.

NellysCheekPlaster · 13/02/2024 10:52

Yep. Totally normally.

I was a loud-mouth know-it-all. I treated my mum like shit. I forewent friendships in favour of boyfriends. I was controlling in relationships. I thought I was the absolute dogs bollocks. I was a snob.

And perhaps worst of all, I fully and very enthusiastically embraced the thin and tinted eyebrow trend so every single photo of my from that period looks like I have two sun-charred sperms chilling on my forehead.

IncompleteSenten · 13/02/2024 10:53

I was a cow when I was young. Then I became a doormat for about a decade. Now I think I'm back to being a cow again.
Circle of life

MagratsDanglyCharms21 · 13/02/2024 10:54

You're doing well if yours was only a 4 year window of twatdom. I was a total knob until I hit my late 30s. I quite like me now but it's definitely taken a while.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 13/02/2024 10:55

I was definitely much more feisty.

IncompleteSenten · 13/02/2024 10:56

Also, teenage me knew everything about everything and wore the Uniform Of Individuality (same clothes everyone my age wore while all shouting loudly how individual we were.)

I look back and cringe my arsehole inside out. Tbh I think that's pretty normal.

SaturdayGiraffe · 13/02/2024 10:56

Good grief yes, until I was 28.

Echobelly · 13/02/2024 10:58

I think I was a bit smug and superior and also I didn't get that just because I didn't see 'obvious' signs of prejudice in society, that didn't mean they weren't there. I mean, I'm not the big queen of social justice now or anything, but I am trying to get better and keep learning.