How do you like loved ones to care for you when you're ill?

[anythinginapinch]

Particularly if you live alone?!

I've been housebound and incapacitated with sinusitis for two weeks. I feel dreadful. Useless DM who texts every day "I hope you're feeling better today" which for some reason pisses me off! (She's hale and hearty and lives 20 mins away).

But I have friends who keep offering to bring me food, pop round from make me a nice cuppa, try and make GP appointment for me and come with me. I really don't know how to react to these kindnesses, I think my DM has all my life left me to "get on" with being ill on my own (she acknowledges she has to play-act caring, we suspect she's autistic.), so I don't know how to let others care for me even when I so yearn to be put to bed and everything taken care of!

So I don't have a sense of what's "normal" if that makes sense.

When you're ill, who cares for you, and how do you feel about it?

I have no family (my DD but she is 7) so I would have to ask friends & neighbours to help. I could currently ask my ex who is falling over himself to be nice to reconcile but I expect that will be pulled soon.

I just try & be as healthy as I can & try not to think about it & the reality of no family is tough. Thankful for good friends though.

Without wanting to sound like your Mum, I hope you feel better soon💐

Leave me alone. Only get involved if I ask them to get me something. My dh is great, he pulls the curtains closed and leaves me in bed, leaves me with paracetamol and water and doesn't bother me unless I text him.

I am rarely ill but, if I am, I want to be left completely alone. My partner is medically qualified so he's very good at telling me not to make such a fuss and then going out and leaving me to it 🤣

But ... but ... your partners - or indeed exes! - are maintaining your house, keeping things ticking over. I end up eating absolute shit, not drinking enough and the house gets squalid wah wah wah...

Maybe I'm just a big baby :(

Tea if I feel well enough to drink it. Apart from that benign neglect.

If my dd had been incapacitated with sinusitis for two weeks and wasn't getting medical help, I'd pay for her to see a private GP and for an ENT referral if necessary

I hope you feel better soon.

I want to be left alone, I'll ask/text if I need anything. I hate being fussed over

I'm lucky, I have three children and a husband and a mother who is very willing and local friends if I'm desperate.
My children generally leave me to it, but will fetch me drinks, easy food and , this is key, look after each other (so put the youngest to bed, fetch themselves a takeaway or sort something basic to eat for each other). My husband looks after the children although works A LOT so is more on hand if something goes wrong but not necessarily doing any emotional type stuff or homework help etc. (This is true all of the time). He will fetch me drinks and food and if I really needed him he would and has, held me up on the loo when I thought I would faint. He has also taken me to hospital in emergencies in the past which means he has to take time off work.
My Mum is brilliant, in her seventies but very fit and active, offers literally to fetch me anything at all I want from anywhere. Will sit with me and generally fuss (in a well meaning way) or if I need to sleep she will be cleaning downstairs.
I don't have many friends but a work colleague has collected a prescription before and I could ask her to do that type of thing again.
Having written all this down I realise how very lucky I am. I often feel quite down about various things (and with good reason) and some of my relationships (including those mentioned here) are really quite tricky and difficult, but in times of illness I do feel supported so I thank you OP for reminding me to count my blessings.

@LatteFlatte happy to be of service :)

Ooh the sound of someone pottering around downstairs, dishwasher or washing machine running, while I sip a cuppa propped up on a nicely made bed ... yes please!!

What I have are two cats scowling at me cos their litter tray needs emptying, overflowing bins, some cat puke I haven't cleared up because bending over makes my head explode, and cold baked beans out of the tin. But I DO have friends offering to help with all this, and I'd help them in a second if vice versa, but I just can't say "thank you Gladys you star, could you possibly put some washing in for me ...".

I live with DH and 5 teens and have never been 'looked after ' !! I wouldn't want to be .
I'm an adult !!

I'm single and life alone. With most illnesses I want to be left alone. Possibly have someone pick up food (if I can eat) and whatever medicine will help. I've had family pop over for a cuppa when I'm starting to feel better which was nice.

I've never been so ill I couldn't load a dishwasher or for long enough to worry about hoovering etc. I expect I'd have to be seriously unwell for a long time before I'd be comfortable letting someone else clean up after me!