Fuck cancer

[AintNobodyHereButUsChickens]

It can fuck off to the far side of fuck and fuck off a bit more. My mum died on 29th Dec, 15 days after being diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer. By the time we found out about it, it had spread to her lung, her ribs and her spine and they told her she could have up to 2 years, she was pretty upbeat about it and staying positive. On Christmas Day they told us it had spread to her skull and was starting to creep into her brain.

What really makes me angry though is that she was in/out of hospital ALL YEAR with chest pains related to her heart condition they said was costochondritis (muscle pain). When we look back through her hospital notes from over the year it's now glaringly obvious to us that she was actually suffering with the symptoms of her secondary breast cancer, and not one single HCP picked up on it until December when she ended up at a different hospital and they took one look at her and immediately knew it wasn't heart related.

Urgh. Fuck cancer.

So sorry to hear this and sorry for the loss of your mum. I hope you plan to get the lack of proper care investigated x

Can I join you in your vent..?
Not the same but my Mum has been transferred to a hospice today. She's 66, diagnoised last March - none smoker, fit and healthy etc, went to DR's, physio with a bad back and no one picked up on a fractured spine with tumours and lung cancer stage 4.
Dont get me wrong I appreciated the extra time we had with her. It will likely be the next day. Heartbroken. Just wanted to reach out. Not sure how to pm on here but if you needed to..

So sorry op
Cancer is horrible
Lost my dad to it in 2022 he was only 66.
Oesophageal cancer spread to the liver. He died 6 days after his diagnosis. It's an absolute bastard . Try and take care of yourself

So sorry for your loss and the terrible medical ‘care’ received. All the adverts say early diagnosis yet Drs ignore symptoms and do do tests.

Pretty similar to my mum who died in October. Misdiagnosed with angina after having a chest scan, it was lung cancer that had spread, she died 6 weeks later.

Im so sorry for you ❤️

Fuck cancer indeed.

So so sorry for your loss @AintNobodyHereButUsChickens . That is so shit. You may not feel like doing it but my mum sent a letter to my dad’s oncology team as they missed that his cancer has spread and it made his last few months much worse than they needed to be. They say they are taking on board her points and changing protocols so that other patients don’t need to suffer needlessly. Thinking of you xx

Sorry to hear about your mum and how painful it is when they are not listened to.

My mum complained about gastric pain for a year and was told it was gastroenteritis by her GP. She actually has stage 4 bowel cancer and has been given a few months.

Lost my mum to lung cancer 67 and sister lung cancer 46. Don't smoke people 😢

I'm sorry for your loss - lost my husband in his early fifties.. We had 4 months between diagnosis and his passing. Doesn't sound like the care is getting any better - the treatment he received from the district nurses was appalling and I will never forgive them for the long term hurt they caused our family including my teenage children. When and if you feel up to it think about making a complaint - we felt better after doing so - hopefully to stop it happening to someone else. If you need to talk McMillan were amazing and the bereavement charity Cruse offer a counselling service. I just wanted to let you know you're not alone and you have my deepest sympathy - take care x

So sorry op and to everyone else who has lost loved ones to the vile disease. I have lost both my mum and dad to cancer, my dad 25 years ago with secondary bone cancer (they did not find primary tumour) and my mum in 2022 to endometrial cancer which had spread quickly far and wide. I'm 42, have 7 year old twins. It's absolutely shit and so so unfair. Sending love ❤️ x

Can I ask why is there not a cure for cancer? Surely there should be some cure by now?
it’s very cruel

My granddad also died of lung cancer (10 years ago today) it had spread to his spine. It's possible it had spread to his brain but they didn't test for it.

So so sorry for your loss .. cancer is a theif that steals our loved ones.
My dear school friend had a mouth ulcer inside his cheek.... his GP kept telling him to put a gel on it... it was cancer that spread so fast to his brain and back.. he was 58.
❤️💐❤️💐❤️💐❤️💐❤️

And the treatments are so brutal. I think it's because it changes the cells and is so invasive, it's like dandelions growing in the grass, spreading spores everywhere even when you think you've pulled them all out.

Can I join?

It's coming up to my best friend's 6th anniversary. I brought her to the hospital on Valentine's Day, she had been diagnosed with a chest infection, then pneumonia but was just getting worse and worse so brought her to the doc who sent her to A&E. Spent 14 hours on a trolley before she was given a bed.

She died of lung cancer 8 days later at the age of 27.

FUCK CANCER

@Lovelyjubbbly cancer isn't just one disease. Every single person's cancer is different because it can by caused by different gene mutations, can spread to different places, have different growth rates, different types etc. A treatment might work for one person but not the next person, despite having the same type of cancer.
It's also difficult to kill the cancer cells without killing your healthy cells too - hence the awful side effects of treatments.
But there is always hope with advancements in personalised medicine and knowledge of genetics improving all the time.

Awful were they both smokers? I'm desperately trying to get my husband to stop.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum

My lovely dad had a heart attack in August 2008. He was still feeling unwell in December. Chest pain and heartburn constantly. Kept going back to the gp. They said it was his heart medication he'd it would settle.
He was still feeling awful, barely eating and vomiting the following Spring. Collapsed in April. Rushed to hospital. They found a massive tumour in his oesaphagus. It had spread to his liver and his stomach and he died 7 weeks later.
When my mum questioned how they could have missed the tumour, they said they weren't looking for it
I'm still angry

Six years ago at the end of January I lost my DP. He was diagnosed with oesophagial cancer six weeks after we got together. He told me I could leave if I wanted. I said no way..
We had two and a half years together. He had lost his wife to cancer a year before we got together. Since he died his daughter and son got married and he's missed three beautiful grandchildren.. FUCK CANCER 💔 💔

I’m so sorry for all your losses. I just wanted to give some hope - I work in oncology and we are getting closer and closer to cures every day. In fact many cancers can already be ‘cured’ (in inverted commas, as in some cases the cancer will always be there but treatments allow people to die with cancer, not from it). I promise massive progress is being made, it sometimes feels bleak but breakthroughs are being made every day.

Well you could say fuck cancer (and I do) but fuck the NHS quite frankly.

Fuck the GP that consistently ignored my father’s skin cancer until it had gotten a proper hold and fuck the doctors at the hospital who decided it was fine to wait a few weeks to check my mother’s colon so that she then died when the tumour came busting out the side of it. Fuck their incompetence and their utter gate keeping attitude to healthcare.

My mum died 24 years ago of suspected bowel cancer which spread to her liver....she was 52.
The stress of her illness caused a fatal heart attack to my dad who died 4 months before her...i was 26 and lost both parents 4 months apart....fuck cancer !!!

I'm sorry for your loss. Are you pursuing a complaint with the hospital over the missed diagnosis because even metastatic breast cancer can be treatable and people can live with it for years these days ? Sounds like it was very far advanced when it was discovered which makes it all the more unbearable.

That's terrible, I'm so sorry. 27 to die of lung cancer.. absolutely tragic.

My sister was in remission by having immunotherapy just a few years back, we were so happy.. but it ruined her lungs and she died anyway. I hope the newer treatments are less aggressive