Adhd Starting a new job, I'll miss my children

[Chocolate2020]

The job I've had since 2021 cut my hours from 25-30 to 12-20 hours I worked 9-3 so I took my kids to school and picked them up , that's dropped to 12-3pm
This was my first job since 2014 .
My current job is easy and very quite but because of my adhd I can't stand it some days.

The issue is I've had to get another job to make up some hours but I'd be out of the house 10-6pm 2 or 3days a week . I did it last year for 2 months when they had cut my hours ... but this time the hours they have cut me to are permenant . I'm also hoping they government don't tax me as its a second job but I'll still be under 30hours if my current job keeps me

I was excited to start this new job as its fun and exactly what I want to do but
I've woken up sobbing this morning , as I'll miss my children and im panicking because change is very difficult for me and ive had 3 obs since i was a teenager and all long years as any change fills me with dred but im sick of not earning enough money and being sad at work .

I know there are parents out there who do 5 days 6 days full time and rarely see their kids ( the supervisor I work with works so hard and long hours and she gets so sad not being with her kids ) ..

How do you all do it ??.. like many other parents I wish I didn't have to work 😭

Change is really hard for so many of us. It sounds like the new job would be good money wise and you’d enjoy it more, bit you’d miss school pick up 2/3 times a week is that right? Who would be looking after the kids during that time? If it’s their parent/ family member or childcare you trust then it feels like the sacrifice may be worth it? I think mother guilt can be really powerful but the likelihood is the children will adjust quickly and you’d be home before bathtime? Hopefully after a couple of weeks it will become normal for your family. Good luck!

I would be back before bedtime , my mum would help. Well technically I might have a little bit extra. But because I'm used to doing 12-3 I'm now panicking over doing longer hours
I wasn't overly happy doing 9-3 and I've been mentally better but the money side of things since the cost of living is making things harder .
I've always been there for school pick up and now I feel like because of the cost of living I'm having to choose

Yes it’s can be really infuriating when we feel forced into a choice due to practical stuff such a money. But sadly that is part of being an adult and having kids and having to provide for them. And sometimes we can feel a sense of loss or grief around what we are giving up. I suppose you could think of it a different way- that your extra hours working are showing your love for your children in the sense that you are buying food for them and housing them.