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So sad tonight.

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Sonnoprivato · 11/02/2024 01:50

Long story short(ish). My son met a girl and they moved into mine together. She's lived with me for 7 months. She is absolutely adorable, I love her. I have treated her (as have my family) like she IS family. She's been like daughter to me. Generally I don't get on with women, much prefer men's company, but me and 'Chloe' get on so well. Anyway, the relationship sadly didn't work out between my son and 'chloe' and she dropped the bombshell tonight that she's moving to Scotland NEXT WEEK, where she has been offered a job.

I have literally cried since she told me. I am still crying now. She's cried, but I can't stop.

It feels like a breakup for me. I know we can keep in touch etc, but it's not going to be the same as how life has been for 7 months. I am shit at change, I don't manage it well, in fact every time anyone leaves my life for whatever reason my mental health declines (it's a BPD thing, abandonment issues, but I know rationally she's not abandoning me, but in my head is just another person I love who's leaving and it's fucking hard).

I live way way down south so it's not like she's just around the corner. I am going to miss her so fricking much. We've spent so much time together when my son has been working and now she's leaving.

I don't know how to navigate my way through this and come out the other side.

😢

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Twolittleloves · 11/02/2024 01:56

How does your son feel about the breakup? I get it must be hard and sad for you losing someone you were close to, but you don't mention how he is feeling and he was the one who was actually 'in' the relationship

Sonnoprivato · 11/02/2024 02:08

Spoke with him earlier and he is fine, he initiated the breakup. He's not much of a relationship person so I should have seen it coming.

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Sonnoprivato · 11/02/2024 02:12

I can 100% say, I spent much more time with her. He works 15 hour days. Out at 7am while she's sleeping, he finishes at 10pm, straight to the gym, home between 12-1am (GF was in bed by that time) and up again for 7 the next day. At the weekends she'd work... They barely saw each other which I think was half the problem.

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