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Dd (14) watched an 18 film at friends

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Whoknew76 · 10/02/2024 22:19

Dd who is 14 has just come home and admitted she watched the film Thirteen at her friends house. It looks way too grown up. I’m a bit annoyed but I don’t think the parents knew. Should I say something ?

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Beezknees · 11/02/2024 07:19

Me and my friends all did this at that age. Watching horror films at sleepovers was a classic. I saw Halloween for the first time when I was 11. None of us are scarred. I'd let this one go.

Clearinguptheclutter · 11/02/2024 07:21

this is totally normal at that sort of age

Clawdy · 11/02/2024 08:21

DS came back from a sleepover at his friend's house years ago, and said they'd watched Texas Chainsaw Massacre with the friend's big brother. This was the friend who wasn't allowed to watch Grange Hill because his mum said it was unsuitable! 😁

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Sturnidae · 11/02/2024 08:30

As long as she is okay with the film I wouldn't be bothered at 14. But make sure she knows she can text and you'll come. I hated horror films but felt like I had no choice but to participate in watching with my friends as I couldn't leave! That was true for other "risky" behaviours later on as well. My mum would never have come to get me without making a huge deal out of it so I didn't feel comfortable asking.

dingledangledinkledoo · 11/02/2024 08:53

At 14 I was sexually actively, smoking weed, going to nightclubs and pubs and I started going back packing/hitch hiking around the uk in the school holidays with my friends ( when I could be bothered to attend school). I also tried cocaine for the first time. I saw my first 18 movie at about 11.

Clearly, my parents didn't give a shit but honestly, your teenager isn't really doing anything wrong. This is a perfectly normal, non serious thing. The very worst thing that could happen is they have some nightmares .

PaperDoIIs · 11/02/2024 08:54

Just talk to her. Why did she mention it? Is there something that bothered her about the movie or that she wants to talk about?

If she just mentioned it as she's open and likes talking about her life/activities with you, take it as a good sign.

I wouldn't like it tbh, but bulldozing in will make her be wary of what she shares with you.

FuppinNora · 11/02/2024 08:56

Positive from this OP is she told you about it. I'd take it as a win and not react about it. In the grand scheme of things watching an 18s at 14 is mild.

BobnLen · 11/02/2024 08:59

Blimey, when I was 14 we were sneaking into the cinema to see the 18 films

Boatshoes · 11/02/2024 09:03

When I was 14 my DT teacher put on Blade (the Wesley Snipes vampire film) on in class at the end of term! We thought it was great at the time 😂

mitogoshi · 11/02/2024 09:08

I was going to say watch Stephen king horrors by that age (lad in year above worked at cinema so let us in) they are actually not a big deal as they aren't realistic... thrillers I find worse for youngsters. It's a right of passage to watch older than you are, I certainly never watch them now. Be more worried about the drink and drugs at parties that kicks in about 15 around our way

StasisMom · 11/02/2024 09:12

I had a knock off video of The Silence of the Lambs at that age and took it into school as we had a tv in our classroom...

Viviennemary · 11/02/2024 09:15

Don't say anything. You will look ridiculous. And absolutely agree with the person who said it could discourage her from telling you things in the future if you re-act to this very trivial thing.

MiltonNorthern · 11/02/2024 09:19

Did you really expect her not to watch an 18 before she's 18?

StuffLoriThangs · 11/02/2024 09:34

As an aside OP the film Thirteen is actually a really good one for them to watch.
It’s a good film but also shows the downside of drug use at a young age

Oganesson118 · 11/02/2024 09:37

I can think of much worse things they could be getting up to. I remember watching Trainspotting younger than that!

Flottie · 11/02/2024 10:42

Aquamarine1029 · 10/02/2024 22:25

Come on now. Calm down.

This.

platinumplus · 11/02/2024 10:46

I watched an 18 at someone's house when I was 11!

Anyway, I think it's good that your daughter told you this. It shows that she is honest and feels comfortable in her relationship with you.

If you say something to the parents and they didn't know, then may react badly towards their child and it will have a knock on effect to yours.

If your daughter is not unhappy with what she watched then I'd leave it. (I've not seen the film so unsure of content - some 18s worse than others).

Donmeistersleepmachine · 11/02/2024 10:51

I wouldn't die on this hill if I were you or speak to the parents. She's a teenager. I actually don't know anybody who watched their first 18 film at 18 years old. It's probably a bit graphic and violent (I haven't seen the film) and not necessarily appropriate but it won't ruin her. It's part and parcel of growing up. Be happy she isn't getting on coke and Mandy smoking weed because at that age I was going to raves watching people get robbed and mong out on ketamine, and so we're all the kids in my area, from both middle class and working class backgrounds.

MegaClutterSlut · 11/02/2024 11:14

I couldn't get worked up over this

When me and my 4 siblings were young, my mum used to put on Nightmare on elm Street. It was the only time we all sat still, completely engrossed which gave her peace and quiet 😂

positivesliceofpie · 11/02/2024 11:23

She could have been doing much worse than watching a film.

sawnotseen · 11/02/2024 11:26

Are you for real?! I watched Basketcase and I spit on your grave when I was 13 at a friends house. I am a professional woman now. My adult children probably watched 18 cert movies underage but they are both successful adults.

merryhouse · 11/02/2024 13:15

Donmeistersleepmachine · 11/02/2024 10:51

I wouldn't die on this hill if I were you or speak to the parents. She's a teenager. I actually don't know anybody who watched their first 18 film at 18 years old. It's probably a bit graphic and violent (I haven't seen the film) and not necessarily appropriate but it won't ruin her. It's part and parcel of growing up. Be happy she isn't getting on coke and Mandy smoking weed because at that age I was going to raves watching people get robbed and mong out on ketamine, and so we're all the kids in my area, from both middle class and working class backgrounds.

I was going to say "me", but then discovered that Halloween was originally an X (we watched it during the last science class of term in whatisnowYear10).

Apart from that, my first was White Mischief in the cinema a couple of weeks into being 18. Still X at that point, though it changed not long after.

I remember claiming to have been freaked out by Halloween (I wrote in my diary that I didn't think I'd ever be able to stand blue light again Grin) but I wasn't really. Possibly because I saw it in such a social environment? I know the freaking out stuff was definitely a social thing.

I've not seen the film in question, but it sounds as if it's got differently-disturbing themes, and being seen to be open to discussion about it would be a good thing.

Cupcakes2024 · 11/02/2024 13:17

The film has it's horror moments I guess this can be a discussion moment for the reasons of age limits for certain films

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