I thought I was happily married til around 7 years ago. My marriage then felt distant and strained. I then saw messages on husbands phone from a women I didn’t know. He had been hiding these. He said it wasn’t anything but shouldn’t have hidden them. I became insecure and paranoid. So searched for more evidence. Found out he was sexting a girl he used to go to school with. Texts that implied he spent a night with another women on a work trip. He just talked his way out of everything and said he was depressed, suicidal and his father was dying. I had no concrete proof. He had a female colleague who he also adored. I told him I wasn’t happy about the amount of time he was spending with her. Found out they went on a trip just the two of them ‘for work’…it wasn’t. He was being vile to me and she was perfect. That was how I felt. He moved jobs because of our issues but took his beloved female colleague with him. He can’t understand why I am so upset. I feel half the woman I was. We have children together. He said he has changed and will never do anything like that again but am I just being a fool??