Is this a cultural thing?

[GentleRosePeer]

My husband and I are from different cultures. He is Pakistani and I was wondering if this was a cultural thing or if it's a bit odd.

We had a very small ceremony at his house with about 7 people including his parents and siblings. Sadly no one from my side could be there.

Some of his family members were kind enough to send him money as a wedding gift.
His parents told him, in confidence, not to share the money with me.

He did it but told me not to tell anyone and that it had to stay a secret.

Is it a cultural thing?
Is it a normal thing in all cultures and I'm being grabby?
Or is it odd?

No they are odd

Odd

Parents sound grabby and a nightmare. Move away far.

Did you have a civil ceremony as well? If not , you might not be married

It's a nikkah so a religious wedding only
We are in the process of getting legally married though

So many threads Similar to this recently

This is the second thread tonight where someone's asking Mumsnet instead of their husband, if something their family did is cultural?

Surely he can tell you more than us?

Did the parents approve of the wedding? Are their issues.
If he is Pakistani assume he is Muslim? Are you Muslim to?

I have loads of Pakistani friends and Bengali and Indian I never heard or seen this. In fact usually the groom spoils the bride (Muslims) I am.not aure about the other religions from those countries and what their practices are.

My husband said it isn't, but he himself admitted he was not very familiar with traditions in his culture

They did approve but reluctantly.
Yes we are both Muslims.
I am Arab though so different cultures.
His parents also told me that I should ask that he keeps praying as a mehr (which is normally a financial gift) but I know that's not how it works, so I don't know anymore about what is cultural and what they made up.

Married to a Pakistani muslim
Its not normal and not their culture at all

True but perhaps she's looking for other people from that culture to give an unbiased view.

Totally judging based on one interaction which you’ve told us from your side… they likely see you as an ‘outsider’ and want to keep their son ‘safe’. Some Pakistanis can be really weird. Be careful and stay away as much as you can.

Your husband is probably embarrassed by this. For the Mehr, just tell them frankly that you wouldn’t like to deviate from the Sunnah.

This is not cultural, they are being weird.