Husband having the snip.

[Havingawobbley]

DH is having the snip in a few weeks and although we don't want anymore DC I'm feeling a bit sad about it and I don't know why?

Has anyone else felt these emotions? It's really bizarre and doesn't make sense!

I hear you. It gets easier.

It's a sort of grief for the 'might have been' and also a milestone that your childbearing years are over.

No, I was delighted when DH had his! No more contraception, it's brilliant 👌

Are you both completely sure you don't want any more kids? You have to be 100%.

Don't get me wrong I'm delighted he's taking one for the team regarding ensuring I don't get pregnant.

I'm over 40 now and we have been blessed with 2 lovely DC so we are done I feel. Oh and we can't afford it either 🤣

I don't know, it just feels a bit sad 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nope but like pp says, I was 1000% sure about no more babies.
A colleague described something similar when talking about menopause, she felt like something was being taken away even though she never planned to need it again. I’d say it’s super normal 😊

I totally get this. It feels like the end of an era. I was surprised when my dh had it that he wasn’t even asked whether he has kids already and whether he was 100% sure he didn’t want more. No regrets but I was surprised the consent process for something so final was so relaxed.

He's been saying he's going to have it done since DC2 was born. He made the call about 3 weeks ago and is having it done at the end of the month so it's all happened kind of quickly.

That's funny you say that @Chicci1 because my husband has been told we have to wait until our youngest is over 18 months until he can be referred.

When my late OH had his, I had to sign to give permission!

He was very frightened abut having it but did it nevertheless. Ironically within 2 years I had to have a hysterectomy - belt and braces job for us!

Totally get this! We have 3 and we really can't manage anymore but I feel so sad when I think of him having it (even though I asked him to get it).

The urge for children is a weird one I think.

I guess it could feel like menopause by proxy. If you're not having the other symptoms you're lucky though. I think you need remember to count your blessings especially if you are enjoying a good sex life with a caring partner..make the most of it ;)

I totally understand and I also felt a bit sad when my DH had his, even after 5 children and I was sure I didn't want any more! It's just the finality of it I think. You will be fine and even relieved in time, I promise!