Stop laziness

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I'm so fed up with myself but don't know how to stop being lazy.

I'll put off almost everything I don't have the drive to do and leave most things to the last second. Which means I'm always faffing about last minute and rushing, often late then fuming with myself for not doing stuff earlier.

I'm overweight and should exercise (cba) and eat healthy but at mealtimes I just can't be bothered and opt for quick and convenient which usually means high calorie UPF or skipping a meal until I'm starving and have to eat.

I dress for comfort but end up looking like a slob because I'm in a rush then I get cross with myself for not taking more care (usually when I bump into someone I know or see someone else looking great). I'm on top of hygiene but I leave it last minute and cba with skin/hair/nail care so I never look my best. I always say "tomorrow I'll cleanse and use eye cream, do my hair etc" but morning comes and cba so it's a face wipe and whatever moisturizer I have on the side, hair tied up. Then I'm pissed off passing every other mum on the school run that doesn't look like they've been dragged through a hedge.

House is a tip and I only clean and tidy up when I feel motivated. Can't have anyone over uninvited in this state.

Everything I do is in a rush or panic because at the time I just don't care and cba but when crunch time rolls around I want to murder myself for not getting my act together!!

I wish I was one of those people that breezed outta bed, had a great breakfast everything ready and dressed for the day. Getting on with stuff without any issues but I literally have to drag myself to everything. I feel like my mind and brain are 2 different people.

No, I stopped work in 2022 to be a SAHM. Am hoping to get back into work once DD2 (3) is in school and DD1 (8) medical appts calm down (SEN & has physical disabilities)

Start small

For example
Evening watching TV cleanse, tone, moisturise skin. Brush hair and run some leave in conditioner in

Easy dinners that aren't UP.

Fluffy jacket potato with houmous and grated carrot. Not going to set the world alight but it's a small step.

I listen to PM on radio 4 most evenings, it's about to start, 5-6pm, in depth look at news stories so I know what's going on but at the same time wash up, prep/make dinner, pack school bags. It's my evening "golden hour" whilst the kids blast shit out of pixel shit.

I know the next load of washing is a dark/colours so instead of that stuff going into basket it goes in the machine sock by sock until it's full and then turned on (probably in the morning).

And try not compare to others just aim for yourself to be a tiny bit more tomorrow than today.

Some of us just operate better under stress. X

Use housework to exercise to start with

Up and down stairs
Squats to pick stuff up
Hoover at speed
Scrub a window or two

Use the time you gave smartly basically then you can watch TV in the evening without the stress of thinking I should have done more.

It sounds like you might be depressed. Lack of motivation and then beating yourself up about it afterwards. Maybe go to the dr and see if you can speak to a therapist/counsellor.

I think it sounds like you're dealing with a lot and also need a lot of downtime.

Do you waste a lot of time on your phone. Switch your downtime to an episode of a series with a cup of tea or coffee.

Start listening to podcasts and audiobooks, many which you can find free on YouTube or your library app, while you do your cleaning and tidying.

I mean this kindly but take responsibility for your own actions. You could do what you wanted to if you really wanted to do it. Stop with the excuses and just get on with stuff. Even if it's 45 mins a day, you'll get lots done.
I feel much better at the end of a productive day and am so annoyed when I have a lazy day. It's a choice.

I agree with starting small. Maybe start focussing on eating well at breakfast, getting to bead earlier and increasing your step-count by a third or something.

It sounds like you aren't in a position to focus on yourself as much as you would probably like to atm but you might feel good for making a few small wins.