TW - miscarriage. How soon can I try again?

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Unfortunately miscarrying today at 5+6. Heartbroken.

The EPU were not great on the phone and it almost sounded like a telling off when I asked when I could try again, they were really quite unsympathetic and said ‘you must wait for a full period otherwise you can end up with pregnancy complications’. I pointed out that I read the NHS website which said you can try as soon as you’re ready but if you wait you will be surer of your dates (words to that effect). She replied rather briskly, ‘yes we read that same website but what I’m saying to you isn’t going to change’

It wasn’t what I needed to hear when I am feeling so delicate and sad. All I want is a healthy baby and to be pregnant. Can I try as soon as the bleeding stops? I don’t want to go against official NHS advice but it seemed as if this member of staff wasn’t saying the same as the NHS website.

Thank you all very much in advance x

Sorry you are going through this. They sound awful and unsympathetic and they are also talking bollocks.

I got pregnant straight after a miscarriage without having a period in between (I knew you are more fertile after a miscarriage- like you are after birth). So we cracked on.

From what I understand they suggest waiting as it’s easier to date (big deal - there are scans for this). And mainly because emotionally you may not be ready. If you are ready though then go for it. You’ll find lots of people have tried again straight away and had a success outcome.

Thank you. I also figured I could use ovulation test strips so could calculate it from ovulation if we are successful. It feels awful and no idea why this happened, I’m almost frightened it will happen again!
How long was it until your bleeding stopped from the miscarriage, if you don’t mind me asking? I can see online it says to avoid trying until then.

Of course - it is understandable to be scared.

I was a bit further along - around 7 and a half weeks. I just waited until the bleeding stopped and then we went again. And all was fine. I have a very healthy 15 year old DS and went on to have another DS now 14. You will be fine. Look after yourself but when you feel ready there’s no reason to wait. Sending lots of positive wishes your way.

The treatment I had after my miscarriage was also awful! Just because it’s reasonably common does not mean women should be treated like this. It’s heartbreaking.

I'm sorry for your loss. You can try again as soon as you feel ready really. I had a mc and I did wait one full cycle (my cycle re-started day of mc, ovulation 14 days after, period on day 28). So then we tried again that next month. We had a holiday booked and I wanted to sort of enjoy the holiday and have a break from thinking about it all that month immediately following the mc. So started again the month after and got pregnant again that first cycle trying. He's turning 6 next week. Really easy, straightforward, healthy pregnancy which was very healing.