So I’m debating whether to quit my job I currently work 44 hours a week nights in a residential care home most of my service users are dementia so it is hard work we have a very high staff turnover and if I’m brutally honest terrible management that don’t care much about staff just about getting people to do the shifts.
at the end of last year I started to feel unwell with stress nausea all the time due to high levels of stress at work I went to the doctor and this is now being investigated I’m waiting for a gastrocopy but still nausea all the time during this time my mother who has been poorly for such a long time had sepsis and was in hospital she while in hospital has had two strokes my mother is now living with my aunt and is having end of life care however my aunt has admitted she’s struggling with it she’s 60 herself I used to care for my mom full time but I just don’t feel able to do it I did try to talk to family about care home and hospice but no one wants to know and I’m shouted and screamed at and called selfish if I bring it up I’ve looked after my mom for 6 years full time she has epilepsy and dementia which has been hard as well as working 44 hours a week there’s no power of attorney which I now regret massively as I don’t feel I have any say and unfortunately have to go along with whatever family members want she has a social worker who was on my side about putting her in a care home until my aunt said no I’ll take care of her social worker then said great my aunt would never admit to him she isn’t coping.
back to my original question I’m due back at work tonight I’ve been off 5 weeks with stress my colleague called me and said there really struggling multiple residents have got utis so it’s really busy and 3 staff have walked out no notice given I felt bad as I’ve had 5 weeks off so I agreed I’d come back however have sent a email to my manger and asked could I possibly work 33 hours instead of 44 as I’m still unwell and mom is nearing the end of her life I would like to spend time with her with my schedule its 3 x12 hour shifts 2 off which one day I sleep all day so only one day off really how I’ve managed it so long I’ll never know I’ve been told well no not really we have no staff and who would cover you I completely get that it’s hard at the moment but I just feel like quitting and taking a year off just to reset my mental health I feel burnt out and stressed and watching my own
mother slowly dying is really affecting me.
the only thing stopping me is I am In debt for 8k I have been advised to have a debt relief order as it takes most of my wages to pay it off. I would also have to apply for universal credit which I know isn’t a lot and things would be ridiculously tight but I just don’t feel like I can do it anymore between work and home life I know I’m making myself really unwell
what would you do in my position?