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Secondary class allocation -whose wishes count most?

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ColdAsConcrete · 07/02/2024 15:16

DD has just had her Yr6 parents evening. The teachers said she'll get to write down one name and she will be put with this person in the same class at secondary.

DD stunned her teachers by asking if she could say who she doesn't want to be with in class. By their reaction (and knowing this girl has already had her parents meeting) I suspect this girl immediately said she would put down DD's name. Teachers have said they will note it down when they go to do class allocations but that they can't guarantee anything.

Whose choice is likely to carry more weight? The girl for saying she wants to be with DD
or
DD for saying that she doesn't want to be with this girl?
Anyone been in this situation before?

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Fluffycloudsfloatinginthesky · 07/02/2024 18:56

When my daughter started secondary they said they would ask for her not to go with a certain person as it was an unhealthy friendship as she replied in my daughter.

Cant ever imagine behind able to chose who to be in a class with.

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ColdAsConcrete · 07/02/2024 19:44

Do they do lessons in their form group?
Yes, all as far as I'm aware. They do some in half classes e.g one group in the computer room whilst other half do art and then switch.
The children fill out the form in class, they don't bring it home.

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NewName24 · 07/02/2024 20:42

TeenDivided · 07/02/2024 15:26

I think your DD's wishes would take precedence.

Regardless it is up to the secondary school. They will be trying to balance friendships, SEN, ability, boy/girl etc across each class. When the time comes I too would email the transitions team. 'DD would prefer not to be with X. Although they have been friends and it is possible X has named DD to be with, DD finds her overwhelming and would prefer a fresh start in secondary. She is happy to be in a tutor group with no one from her school if necessary' (or whatever).

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NewName24 · 07/02/2024 20:43

ThanksItHasPockets · 07/02/2024 17:45

Speaking as a secondary teacher, in the case of conflicting requests like this we would generally try to accommodate the child who wants to be separated rather than the child who wants to be together, as it can be an indication of an unhealthy relationship that one party is trying to disentangle themself from. You will need to speak directly to the head of year 7 or the transition lead at the secondary school to be sure, however. The other child will never need to know.

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