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I'm horrified....

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Angelinastork · 07/02/2024 15:06

I got a phone call from my DD's (6 yo) school to tell me that DD has said on a 1 to 1 reading with her teacher that her mummy strangles her when we do reading at home! So the teacher gave me a call to have a chat as she said in all the years she's been teaching she's never heard that.

I'm horrified! I know DD has a funny way of expressing things and the teachers know that, but it triggered a concern at the school enough to give me a call and I'm not sure what do I expect next.

Basically what it is, I told the teacher already, when DD was a little smaller she used to sit on my lap whilst doing the reading and I would reach with my left arm over her shoulder to hold the book and she used to say: 'mummy, you are strangling me!'. But she's grown so much she's too big to sit on my lap so we haven't even done that lately.

Has anyone had any similar experience?

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Wallawallawallaby · 08/02/2024 08:30

TimeIhadaNightCapwithSanta · 07/02/2024 19:05

I was called in by the nursery staff as my darling had told them I'd bitten her on the tummy and it had hurt and she'd had to tell me to stop. They let it go once but when she repeated it the next day, and showed them a mark there, they had to call me in.

It was a conflation of many things. The mark was a tick bite. I'd sometimes pretend to eat her, from a distance. She had started nipping me and hurting me that week. I'm glad she'd got the message that biting hurts but I'd rather she hadn't tried to make out I was the one doing the biting!

This sounds like my friends daughter who announced one day she couldn’t go to school because the teacher kept hitting her with books… when the teacher was asked she said “ah yes, there has been some hitting with books, but if friend’sdaughter thinks hard she might remember it was the other way around!”.

Franticbutterfly · 08/02/2024 12:58

Mine told the teacher that we burn her on the oven (she had red pen on her hand). I had to send them a video of me cleaning the pen off with make up remover.

She had touched the side of the oven door a few weeks before and burnt herself but there was no real injury as a result. I felt like a criminal when I had the class and head teacher quizzing me.

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Angelinastork · 09/02/2024 13:03

When DD was at nursery, one of her friends was saying one day that his mum and dad are screaming at each other late in the night and that wakes him up.

Sadly, a week later he and his mum left the property where they lived together as a family and moved into a new flat. The parents are now divorced. So sadly what the boy was saying was most likely true.

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LanaL · 08/07/2024 20:30

I wouldn’t worry too much , they obviously had to say something and I’m sure they now will see there is no issue and that will be that. It will likely be recorded on the schools safeguarding database , they have to , but it will then say something along the lines of “ spoke to mum , mum explained that xxxx . No further concerns “ ( they know children to keep an eye on but they have to log everything - this isn’t passed on to SS but everything is usually recorded ) .

A child once told me that their mother had choked them and tried to kill them. Turns out that the child had been wanting something from the shop and the mum said no , the child then tried to run across the road to the shop so mum had quickly grabbed them by the hood of their coat as it happened so quick and the coat had pulled and the child took that as their mum choking them . This poor mum was mortified ! She was really worried . I had logged it onto the schools safeguarding database and then spoke to the DSL who spoke to the parent and then we updated the database to reflect this. That was the end of it .

My daughter , when she was about 3 , walked right behind me and as I moved backwards I knocked her over with my bum lol . She cried and looked so shocked and said “ mummy hurt me” I felt awful and gave her cuddles . The next day the nursery pulled me aside and said that she had said I pushed her over - with my bum!

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