Crying every morning

[Teacrumpets]

I live in a ground floor flat with upstairs neighbours who have a 4 year old DD. DD wails and cries every single morning for around an hour. Sometimes in the evening as well. This morning she's been going for an hour and I could hear the parents sort of negotiating and berating her to stop, no words of comfort.😟

Non stop inconsolable wailing and crying every single morning. Driving me potty. Every single morning it's like torture. I feel for the child as have a little one myself (who asks why is she crying again mummy).

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Update - the child came home this afternoon shouting and crying. Now crying and wailing again.

I'm unsure what to do. I'm not a nosy neighbour but I spend most of my day at home WFH and I feel sorry for this child.

There is nothing you can do. I doubt her parents are happy with the constant crying.

It would worry me too OP -- when you say berating, what do you mean? What are they saying? Do you mean shouting?

find a way to speak to them and find out more. Assume from your posts it’s been going on for quite a while. It’s not ok. Maybe they need parenting skills help (like surestart used to give) if not giving her comfort .

Could you see if their dd would like to play with your dc? Maybe you could then get a bigger picture.

@BurbageBrook I can't hear what they are saying exactly. This morning it sounded like both mum and dad were berating her for crying. Hard to describe, sort of like if you were huffing at a teenager for leaving dirty socks lying around 🙁

@getfreddynow yes it's been going on for as long as I can remember. I've lived here with for two years. Every morning and most nights.

@IChangedForThis I've offered in the past play dates but the mum is very huffy and not friendly at all. I steer clear to be honest and I don't like confronting people. Doesn't help that they seemed to develop a weed habit recently, seems to have stopped for the time being thank goodness.

2 years. Every morning and night. Weed habit. No comfort.

report.

If you report and there's nothing wrong then no harm done, so I'd err on the side of speaking to SS I think.

Call SS. They won’t do anything but it may help build up a picture.

The little girl is unhappy every single day. If you understandably don’t feel able to offer support, which would be rejected probably even though they obviously need it, why don’t you ring your local social services to let them know. Not really to “report” but to say this family are really struggling. Give details and times, try if possible to speak to an actual social worker rather than just a call centre.
Or, schools seem to be doing more on the social side these days. You could ring and speak to the headteacher or safeguarding person to share what you know.
There have been a few cases recently where children have suffered a lot at hands of parents and nobody put two and two together till it was too late. Hopefully this isn’t one of these situations but still, the child is unhappy and too young to ask for help.

My dd does this. She's autistic and struggles with emotional dysregulation. the simplest things overwhelm her. Socks being the absolute worst but she has to wear them because she screams if she wears shoes without socks.

I'm so glad my neighbour have been understanding of her difficulties. Occasionally I have had to walk away because not only is she screaming which hurts my ears, she is violent and will attack you.

Sounds like the kid is desperate for an ounce of sympathy.

It’s really difficult living next door to dysfunction. Don’t make it known that you're concerned in person but you could call SS to log your concerns. If you feel uncomfortable with what you can hear that’s an instinct to follow. Then it’s on them to decide. At least you’ll know you’ve done what you can without overstepping.

Thanks for replies. It's not normal is it, crying and wailing morning and night. Sometimes it does sound like the child has been left to cry. I understand sometimes a parent needs to step away from it, but it is just every single day. Today again, the child has shouted and crying upon coming home this afternoon. I think she goes to a childminder.

I know it sounds selfish but it's driving me mad and triggering me when I hear the continued crying.