So 'Natalie' and I have been friends for about 15 years, met at work, in a professional field if thats relevant. Been through lifes ups and downs together - kids, family illness, my divorce and subsequent operations.
She is very ambitious. We were made redundant by our employer about 6 years ago, and moved into similar roles in other organisations, NatAlie made some small comments over the years indicating that she earned more than me, that she had never needed to look for a job as she had a great network. She doesn't earn more, I was extremely lucky and earn more than her and other ex colleagues but Ive never indicated this to her in any way. It did come out a year ago when an ex colleague told her I was doing extremely well at work. I was interviewed in her company about a year ago for a role, I asked her for some information about the team, she was very evasive and didnt want to share.
Anyway! I have been trying to meet with her since last September. She has needed to cancel twice as her mum has visited at short notice, has been busy at work or has offered me random times like 2pm in Monday at a museum in central London when Ive been at work 
. At least a couple of times she has ignored my message when ive asked when she is free to meet. Her texts have got shorter and shorter over time. She no longer shares pictures of her kids etc.
Natalie's role came to an end last week, and my DD 17 weirdly said to me that Natalie would be in touch with me now that she needed help finding a job. I had an operation 2 weeks ago but N was unable to visit as her mum visited expectedly, I thought this was really upsetting.. Last night she messaged, hoping that I was recovering well and that 'we might need to speak' as she has an interview she needs to prep for today and when can we meet so she can ask me questions 
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She is using me isnt she? I need to man up and not feel so rotten about it, Im a grown woman for gods sake (and actually still sick this week as recovering from a large operation)